Re: Girls at school harder 2 get than ones Outside of School?
Lessons from someone who, despite being oddly shy in high school was only single for about six months out of the four years:
1. Don't look for a girl friend. Make friends, some of whom are girls. Do this long enough and well enough and one of them will strike a spark.
2. No matter whether your objective in having a girl friend is, whether to exchange bad love poetry, to hold hands while walking down the hall, or to get laid early and often, do not push for this. I cannot tell you how many women get exasperated about men/boys whose only thoughts are getting some. It's not that girls/women aren't just as horny as you are, but between the screwed up culture of the virgin whore and the very real risks associated with having sex for a woman/girl, do not assume that acting like a male dog around a female dog in heat is going to be attractive.3. R emember, high school age girls are just as insane as high school age boys. They don't know what they're doing any more than you do. Some portion of the girls who aren't talking to you are just as afraid as you are of looking bad, screwing up or otherwise humiliating themselves.
4. And, because it should go without saying, no means goddam no! I'm tired of my gender being undercut by assholes who forget that women/girls get to own their bodies just as much as men/boys do. I'm looking at you Steubenville!
5. Relax! I know this is hard. I know that between having to fight through the social morass of a blind person in a sighted world, and raging hormones and that feeling that people don't take you seriously, it feels very lonely and hard. But here's the actual secret. Women/girls want someone to treat them with respect, to laugh at their jokes, to comfort them when they're sad , to treat them as human beings not Barbie dolls, to listen to their ideas, to assume that they have something of value to contribute, to feel that you recognize their true worth. In other words, they just want you to treat them like humans and friends. Some of them will want you to do other things with them and in these areas the same secret applies, listen, ask, value, give of yourself and ye shall receive.
It's really not as hard as people make it.
Thanx 4 the advice man.... awesome 2 hear ya had so much success in HS!
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