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While feminists have always argued for
concessions for women, often at the expense of men, citing skewed
gender-ratio against girls and have been successful in getting them as
well, but men at the same time have been facing tougher and tougher
times.
Selective sex abortions and
male-preference has been viciously twisted by feminists to unleash
male-hatred and piggyback their sinister agenda onto it. As a result
boys and men have to live a life without "FREEDOM of CHOICES"
and they are forced to don the role of a PROTECTOR and
a PROVIDER popularly known as the FREE ATM
MACHINE and the UNPAID BODYGUARD.
At the same time, the most risky, menial
and dangerous jobs are heaped on to men and the burden of
responsibilities of maintaining the family - parents, siblings, wife,
children, in-laws, etc. has also been thrust onto men leading to ever
increasing and skyrocketing expectations from them and nose-diving
acceptance levels for their shortcomings and weaknesses.
And it is because of this skewed balance
of responsibilities between men and women, that the society prefers
male children over female children. After all, everyone wants someone to
take care of in the dusky days and why to have an offspring that cannot
be imposed upon with responsibilities. It is not because of
some over-flowing extra love for men that male children are preferred.
The situation can be very well explained in terms of economics. Because
of preference and because of natural birth ratio of 950 females for
every 1000 males, there is an over-supply of men and under-supply of
women. As a result, obviously, women have become the prized asset
enjoying aggravated levels of protection, pampering and concessions
whilst men have become the surplus asset presumed to require no
protection and something that can be disposed off with. This phenomenon,
which is worldwide and irrelevant of culture or country, has led to the
establishment of the Male Disposability as defined below,
Male Disposability is a
psychological behavioral and attitudinal syndrome that considers Men as
"Disposable
and Expendable" and invests very low emotional resources
with males which ultimately leads to an environment insensitive to the
problems of the male world or one that automatically eliminates weak men
(or men finished off with their utility) viewing them as liability,
An explanation of the above definition
with statistics is also available at Male
Disposability - Myth or Reality.
>From a pure economical point of view,
the dynamics between returns and risks
is a direct function of the investments. Higher the
investment, higher the returns and higher the risks involved as well.
Big Corporate Houses have a lot of corpus fund to put into business,
commerce and trade and as a result they make a lot of money as well but
at the same time they do carry heavy risks and the needed potential to
absorb huge losses as well.
Similarly since the society invests
heavily in women (in terms of social, legal, emotional, economic and
academic resources), the returns as well as the risks are extremely
high. The returns are available in form of a very balanced and strong
emotional health of women that gives many a positive results and the
risks are in the form of extra precautions and laws needed for them and
the negative results of strong emotional health of women and enhanced
expression abilities.
Similarly, for men, as the investment is
low (actually very close to zero), both the returns and risks are low.
The low returns are manifested in the form of lack of expression from
men, reduced capability of emotional confrontation, deformed and
mutilated psycho-emotional health and low risks are obviously visible in
the various instances of "Male Disposability" and
expectation of high risk appetite from men.
However, society is facing a lot of
problems. And each problem seems to stem from a string of such problems
and also leads to multiple such strings and the whole situation looks
like an entangled mesh of problems where each thread is stuck. And if
things continue in this way, then it won't be longer before societal
structures crumble and societal power equations dissolve for all time to
come with little or no scope of repair.
But as the old adage goes, "World lives
on hope", so is the case here. Still the choice lies with the society to
"LIBERATE MEN from RESPONSIBILITIES", increase its
investment in men - socially, legally, emotionally, economically, and
academically - and in turn get high returns.
However, one may argue that when things
are running, what is the need to take higher risks? It is pertinent to
mention here that things are definitely running, but where are they
heading to? Are we to wait seeing things run to end? Or take a stand now
and alter the future forever, because, nothing in life comes for free. THERE
IS NO FREE LUNCH AVAILABLE. Everything comes associated with a
price tag and many a times the price can be way costlier and precious
than money or financial price; a loss that may not be recoverable at all
if we do not prevent it now by LIBERATING MEN FROM
RESPONSIBILITIES.
How will it help?
Liberating men from responsibilities and
dissolving the freedom of choice of responsibilities across both the
genders has many advantages.
First and foremost, it will provide men
with the much needed space and time that they need for them to do
something in life that interests them rather than just donning the
humdrum role of a PROTECTING and PROVIDING male. This role often
requires men to enter into a rat race and makes the male world extremely
competitive, insensitive and violent and in such a case the possibility
of the violence and aggression spilling over to other areas of life
cannot be ruled out.
In other words, liberating men from
responsibilities and giving them the freedom of choice will actually
reduce the violent behavior of men to a large extent as opposed to the
current style of punishing men. It is but obvious that the methodology
is not working because rather than improving the lives of men and the
society in general, it is reducing the quality of life. This is clearly
evident from the enormously high stress levels in the life of men
corroborated by an extremely high and exponentially growing suicide rate
of men, reduced life expectancy and mostly men becoming victims of
diseases like cardiac arrest, high blood pressure, diabetes - all of
which are the direct consequence of abnormally high stress levels.
Lack of expressional capabilities, is a
serious and known problem with men; a problem with which even the most
renowned psychological counselors are grappling but unable to solve.
Liberating men from responsibilities will give men the emotional space
needed to develop expressional capabilities as they will move closer to
their experiential domain. This will improve the life-quality of men in
general and society at large. And this is something that needs to be
implemented with our current generation of boys for they are the MEN
of the FUTURE.
Liberating men from responsibilities
will also mean giving an equal opportunity to women to take upon the
same. This will be true empowerment of women as opposed to current and
proposed ones which specifically target at punishing men - and it has
already been shown above that it is not working.
Entrusting someone with responsibility
is a true recognition of capabilities and an undisputed sign of
empowerment. This will also lead to increased preference of female
children and will solve the problem of gender ratio as well.
Hence, as we see, with a slight change
in our attitudes and social perceptions of gender, we can solve some of
the most difficult problems the current society is plagued with as
opposed to the current way of formulating a new law for every social
problem faced.
So do we agree to LIBERATE MEN
FROM RESPONSIBILITIES?
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