I'm picking one point to quickly refer to. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Warren Ockrassa" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Tuesday, November 23, 2004 6:41 PM Subject: Re: More hypocrisy on display than skin
> > Or, to look at more common occurrences, lets consider blended families. > > Blended families can work, it's just harder. Literature written by > > people > > who advocate the possibility of healthy blended families usually > > acknowledge that its more work to have a healthy blended family than > > it is > > to have a healthy nuclear family....assuming that there are people of > > good > > will are involved in both. Extended families are different, of course. > > Again, cite the literature. Are these studies done only in nations that > assume monogamous couples? How much social bias it at play when we talk > about how hard/easy it is for a blended family to maintain a good > stable environment? Almost none. I'll give a quick cite here, but what I am talking about is the marriage and family counseling equivalent of Newton's Laws. Its not a Christian perspective, its not a conservative perspective, its a fairly universal perspective. One site that came up quickly is: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/blended_families_stepfamilies.htm The types of stuff they talk about here seem fairly obvious to me. Let me quote one statement which fits my point: <quote> Because stepfamilies are so complicated, it takes a long time, often 4-7 years or longer, for people to get to know each other, to create positive relationships, and to develop a family history. <end quote> That sounds very reasonable to me. And its the second site I found. The first one for kids, and contained a scaled down version of what I'm talking about. Look at the issues that are involved in having a successful blended family. They don't seem to be issues that relate to social prejudice against children of blended families. Dan M. _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
