I'll bet this discussion is going to continue for a bit, so let's clarify: I've ALWAYS made people stop what they are doing -- made them leave more room, move a hand -- I've just always done it non-verbally. If I don't want to be dipped, I don't get dipped -- I can shift my weight or go inert in ways that make it impossible. I'm not shy about taking care of myself, and that cold/silent treatment is pretty darn harsh/unmistakable (just ask my husband :)
But on reflection, it's always been a private interchange. By "calling out", I mean it in the most specific way: calling them out from the crowd, into the spotlight, to be addressed in front of an audience. I've very rarely seen this happen, and have never heard of a woman walking off the floor mid-dance. On Sat, Jul 9, 2011 at 1:15 PM, Bree Kalb <b...@mindspring.com> wrote: > Amy wrote: But have I truly called > > them out on it? No. And neither have any of my peers. > > I have. > Now that I'm older, it doesn't happen as often, but still does > occasionally. > I've put my left palm against a man's shoulder and pushed him back, saying: > "I don't want to dance that close.' Or: "I don't sleaze dance." The next > time they've asked me to dance, I've said "I'll only dance with you again > if you don't (do that particular thing again.)" They've always agreed and > behaved themselves, for that dance. When I come to them in the line, I > automatically push them back a little. But I know I'm an exception; the > younger, shyer women don't feel comfortable setting limits. Even someone > like Amy (who I surmise is not particularly shy) is uneasy being so bold. So > it's important that the organizers pay attention and act. Our board actually > banned a guy from dancing because he was preying on teenage girls; other > dance organizers in the area followed suit. > > Bree Kalb > Carrboro > ______________________________**_________________ > Callers mailing list > call...@sharedweight.net > http://www.sharedweight.net/**mailman/listinfo/callers<http://www.sharedweight.net/mailman/listinfo/callers> >
