Okay, this conversation, plus the lunch table at the Puttin’ On the Dance Conference in Ottawa are FINALLY getting me to give up clinging to moons and stars (the only non-gender term I’ve ever used, which I have liked with families and have found works well, but which I understand is too gender-y to be acceptable as the solution we’re looking for - dang!). I am herewith committing to trying out Jets and Rubies next weekend at a dance I’m calling for a wedding of two women. Will report back.
> On May 29, 2015, at 1:56 AM, P. Campbell via Callers > <[email protected]> wrote: > > I like jets & rubies (and have used the terms) for a number of reasons. > (Don't like gems for same reason about confusion). > > In a weird way, it's close enough to "lefts & rights" for me to have no > trouble remembering who's who (with rubies starting with "r"), and, > (apologies to those who might be offended), because it fits the same > syllables for me as "gents & ladies" (which I use for historical dance) or > "men & women". > > For some reason I just can't get a feel for larks & ravens (I have an idea of > why but not worth sharing), and I'm not at all comfortable using bands & > bares. > > For me, it's whatever will be the easiest for me to remember which side is > which, and if my brain is wired to think of "jets" (black color) as more > masculine and "rubies" (red color) as more feminine (so easier for me to link > them to left & right), that's my mental visual process. (I tried apples & > oranges once with a group of kids - it was terrible because I couldn't > remember which was which side - I have to have some frame of reference). > > I think one of the reasons I have trouble with larks & ravens is because of > having learned a foreign language that has a gender for nouns, and I want to > make larks the right side and ravens the left, but then the syllable > structure doesn't work for me. > > My 2 cents. > > Patricia > > > > > Sent from my iPhone > > On May 28, 2015, at 3:51 PM, Alan Winston via Callers > <[email protected] <mailto:[email protected]>> > wrote: > >> >> >> On 5/28/15 12:30 PM, Ron Blechner via Callers wrote: >>> For those interested in gender free contra dance terms: >>> >>> 1. Do you like or dislike jets / rubies ? >>> >>> >>> >> Like. (I'm responding on personal preference alone; I'm aware of some >> objections to this, which I don't personally share.) >> >>> 2. How would gems / rubies compare? >>> >> >> Less good, because the soft "ms" would make the call less clear. Also, >> rubies _are_ gems, so this is confusing. >> >> -- Alan >> _______________________________________________ >> Callers mailing list >> [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> >> http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net >> <http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net> > _______________________________________________ > Callers mailing list > [email protected] > http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net <>:<>:<>:<>:<>:<>:<>:<>:<> Delia Clark PO Box 45 Taftsville, VT 05073 802-457-2075 [email protected]
