I've seen some responses on the organizers list and here, and I've
thought about the persistent rock-in-the-stream dancer we had in
Berkeley (who did, eventually, start modifying the dances so he could
get where he needed on time, and who indeed various women would ask to
dance or he'd be asking the new young women dancers and confusing them
horribly).
One thing I'm noticing from the similar stories and responses is that
all the rocks in the stream I'm hearing about are male, and it's falling
on experienced women dancers to save the dance from them.
Is this just a problem with small sample sizes? Has anyone encountered
this kind of dancer, the kind who really structurally can't ever be good
at it, spreads confusion, and yet keeps coming back, in female form?
-- Alan
On 3/6/2017 5:24 PM, Mary Collins via Callers wrote:
We have a dancer here in Buffalo that has a hard time hearing and
ear-mind process-motor response time is very very slow. (I worry about
him driving). We have a loose house rule that the regular good lady
dancers pair with this gentleman. Otherwise he will ask newbies to
dance, and often is at the end of the line, after the walk through.
When you dance with him you have to call to him through the dance and
guide him to where he needs to be. This is how we have dealt with our
own issue.
In your case, you might want to invite him to your beginner's workshop
where you can address some of the issues you have seen him experience
(i.e. the 1/2 alemande instead of the 1 1/2 of the call, or a shorter
swing. Play up the better never than late thing and talk about
flourishes and how they are not really a necessary part of the dance
experience.
the others have mentioned other ideas that are really good.
Good luck Marie!
Mary in Buffalo
“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about
learning to dance in the rain!” ~ Unknown
On Mon, Mar 6, 2017 at 3:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers
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Hi everyone,
Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is
bad enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is
moderately challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment
and walks very stiffly which means he will often not be on time
for a figure and also often does not remember what is coming next.
We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence
negatively impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the
experienced dancers will take one for the team and dance with him,
it is an unpleasant experience to be his partner. Unfortunately,
we always have many new dancers and having one couple not be where
they should be can really throw them off in some dances so I feel
like I have to push and pull him around to be on time, despite the
fact that it's a little rude.
A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which
was quite accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with
similar troubles, does anyone have advice on how to deal with this
so that other dancers still have a good time yet we are nice to
this problematic dancer?
Thank you
Marie
ContraMontreal
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