Just to be clear Beth, And you aren't saying anything I haven't thought of.
I'm not trying to have him arrested for trying to make an ebay purchase. I am considering filing a wire fraud complaint with the US Attorney's office for stealing my ebay account (identity theft) and for attempting to purchase something fraudulently through that account once he took it over. (Wire Fraud). All I can do is turn it over to the US Attorney's office. What they decide to do with it (and him) then is out of my hands. I had hoped that after the threats he had finished up. Unfortunately, I was wrong. He sent a posting of something I had posted here to my sister (who promptly forwarded it to me). He did the ebay thing. He is clearly obsessive and isn't backing off. He has had private detectives on me AFTER I moved to DC (for what reason I don't know). Through these private detectives he managed to access my emails (which he read to me over the phone), find out about parties I have attended and generally snoop into my life). This has left me pretty shaken and feeling very vulnerable as well. I worry about if I get the restraining order if that will simply set him off even more. However, I can't just sit back and do nothing. The ebay situation was the absolute last straw. I don't want anything from him but to be left alone, but if he fucks with me, I will take action to make it stop. -----Original Message----- From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 1:22 PM To: CF-Community Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish Actually, i have some sympathy for Sandy's ex-- I am not justifying his actions - clearly he is behaving like a freak, but I suspect its that he isn't mentally all there right now. Remember his wife just left him (for another man no less), and I would assume she didn't leave him because he is a wonderful, happy person to be with - perhaps he was already depressed, perhaps its a drinking problem - either of those situations might cause someone to behave in an inappropriate manner. BEFORE you flame me for this message- I do not condone his actions. At all. I am glad Sandy filed a restraining order, but I am hoping that he has 'shot his wad' so to speak and will leave her alone. I think that attempting to have him arrested for trying to make an ebay purchase may a) make him more unstable (and i don't think its because he is a jerk, i really think he is unstable and b) may cause him to be more abusive to Sandy. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Michael Corrigan" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:30 pm Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish > I agree with your sister Sandy. Step out of your situation for a > second > and ask yourself, what advice would you give to someone else in > your > situation? I think that should help you decide what to do. > > Also, by allowing him to get away with this, you are, at least in > his > mind, saying that it's ok to do this and he will keep doing it. > If you > need support, I'm sure that there are a myriad of organizations > out > there that have the resources to help you with these things. I > just > afraid that he will continue to escalate this and by doing > something to > stop him, you will most likely be able to break the momentum. > Don't > allow yourself to be in position one day where you find yourself > saying > "If I only would have done this or that, then I might have been > able to > prevent this stuff" Hind sight is 20/20 so use your past > experiences to > give you that vision. > > > Michael Corrigan > Programmer > Endora Digital Solutions > 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200 > Lombard, IL 60148 > 630-627-5055 x-136 > 630/627-5255 Fax > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Sandy Clark > To: CF-Community > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:25 AM > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > I've actually requested the forms from the US Attorney's office. > Its a > pain > and I'm not sure its worth my time to pursue, but as my sister > said > when I > told her (she is a US Marshall), "He's a big boy and has to reap the > consequences of his actions." > > So I guess I will pursue. Hard to believe it has to come to > this > tho.... > > -----Original Message----- > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:05 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > Its a power thing from the sounds of it. In other words, "You > can't do > this > to me so I'm going to prove it to you by messing up stuff of yours!" > > damn I hate that sort of adolescent tripe. > > I'd seriously consider doing the wire fraud charges. > > larry > > -- > Larry C. Lyons > ColdFusion/Web Developer > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > EBStor.com > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > tel: (703) 393-7930 > fax: (703) 393-2659 > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > http://www.pacel.com > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > -- > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:59 AM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > Apart from moral support I don't think so. > > > > He's called me and threatened me. > > > > This weekend he broke into my ebay account, locked me out of > > it and changed > > my username and password so I couldn't get in and Attempted > > to buy something > > with that account. > > > > Luckily I was able to prove all of this to Ebay's > > satisfaction and not only > > did they restore my account, they actually ended up deleting > > his. (which > > surprised me no end!) > > > > I'm contemplating filing criminal charges (wire fraud) against him > > > > Funny thing is I just want him to leave me alone. You'd > > figure if someone > > moved 3000 miles from you,you would get the picture??? > > > > Sandy > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:50 AM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > On the first part, that's great. > > > > As for the second, that sucks. > > > > Anything we can do to help? > > > > larry > > > > -- > > Larry C. Lyons > > ColdFusion/Web Developer > > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > EBStor.com > > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > tel: (703) 393-7930 > > fax: (703) 393-2659 > > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > http://www.pacel.com > > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > -- > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:54 AM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > > > <cfset Answer = true> > > > <cfset answer = "good"> > > > > > > 5 miles from home, at my contracting rate and no Overtime!!! > > > > > > Very Glad I am not in LA after this past week. > > > > > > I actually had to file for a restraining order on my ex and > > > he is still in > > > LA. What a mess. > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Michael Corrigan [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:37 AM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > > > By the use of upper case, I'm assuming that you got a new gig? > > > True/False? > > > > > > <cfif answer eq "True"> > > > good/bad? > > > <cfif answer neq "Bad"> > > > CONGRATULATIONS!!!! > > > <cfelse> > > > Well, look at it this way...you could still be in LA ;^) > > > </cfif> > > > <cfelse> > > > My Bad! Here's a muffin...and a beer. > > > </cfif> > > > > > > Michael Corrigan > > > Programmer > > > Endora Digital Solutions > > > 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200 > > > Lombard, IL 60148 > > > 630-627-5055 x-136 > > > 630/627-5255 Fax > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > From: Sandy Clark > > > To: CF-Community > > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:27 AM > > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > > > The only thing that was fusebox in that project was that > they > had > > > fuseactions. Other than that, it was so screwed up, it > > wasn't funny. > > > > > > > > > I'm a big fusebox proponent, Unfortunately, they won't be > using > > fusebox in > > > my NEW JOB!!!!!! > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:03 AM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > > > fusebox fixes alot of these issues > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > From: "Sandy Clark" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:05 am > > > Subject: RE: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > At the last place I was at, they weren't ready for me to > do > the > > > > project I > > > > was hired to do and threw me at doing QA testing on > > > another project. > > > > > > > > I have never seen code where every query in a page was > > named "Q". > > > > > > > > Comments on code read something like > > > > <!-- Now increment a by one ---> > > > > > > > > However Custom Tags were never commented by were named > something > > > > scary like > > > > <CF_RunFromScriptA> > > > > > > > > I feel your pain. C, I really really do. > > > > > > > > > > > > ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ > > > > Sandra Clark > > > > Macromedia Certified Advanced Coldfusion 5.0 Developer > > > > Shayna Productions > > > > http://www.shayna.com > > > > [EMAIL PROTECTED] <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: C. Hatton Humphrey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:57 AM > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > Subject: Screams of Anguish > > > > > > > > > > > > Okay, I've got to vent somewhere, and since we're all CF > people > > > > here I can > > > > do so and not completely confuse my audience. > > > > > > > > I am tasked with updating and maintaining a B2B EC site > that > has > > > > been in > > > > existence for over 3 years. I just recently (November) > moved > it > > > > from FoxPro > > > > to SQL Server for a datasource. Now I'm doing more > > mods to it and > > > > am having > > > > to deal with 800 and 1,500 line pages that have the same > query > 4 > > > > times with > > > > one ID reference different. > > > > > > > > I think the great Geek Cartoonist Illiad said it best in > > > this strip: > > > > http: > > > > > > > > C. Hatton Humphrey, Developer > > > > Fisher, Towne & Associates > > > > 716-839-2141 x336 > > > > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.coolfusion.com Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
