Thanks Ben,

Appreciate the sentiments.  Actually aside from this my life is GREAT!

-----Original Message-----
From: Braver, Ben [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 1:52 PM
To: CF-Community
Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish


Sandy,

finally got into today's pile of email, saw this mess
sorry to hear ya are having a problem with the dork
hope everything works out ok

-Ben

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:40 AM
> To: CF-Community
> Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
>
>
> Just to be clear Beth,
>
> And you aren't saying anything I haven't thought of.
>
> I'm not trying to have him arrested for trying to make an
> ebay purchase.
>
> I am considering filing a wire fraud complaint with the US
> Attorney's office
> for stealing my ebay account (identity theft) and for
> attempting to purchase
> something fraudulently through that account once he took it
> over. (Wire
> Fraud).  All I can do is turn it over to the US Attorney's
> office. What they
> decide to do with it (and him) then is out of my hands.
>
> I had hoped that after the threats he had finished up.
> Unfortunately, I was
> wrong.  He sent a posting of something I had posted here to
> my sister (who
> promptly forwarded it to me).  He did the ebay thing.  He is clearly
> obsessive and isn't backing off. He has had private
> detectives on me AFTER I
> moved to DC (for what reason I don't know). Through these
> private detectives
> he managed to access my emails (which he read to me over the
> phone), find
> out about parties I have attended and generally snoop into my
> life).  This
> has left me pretty shaken and feeling very vulnerable as well.
>
> I worry about if I get the restraining order if that will
> simply set him off
> even more. However, I can't just sit back and do nothing.  The ebay
> situation was the absolute last straw.  I don't want anything
> from him but
> to be left alone, but if he fucks with me, I will take action
> to make it
> stop.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 1:22 PM
> To: CF-Community
> Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
>
>
> Actually, i have some sympathy for Sandy's ex-- I am not
> justifying his
> actions - clearly he is behaving like a freak, but I suspect its that
> he isn't mentally all there right now.  Remember his wife
> just left him
> (for another man no less), and I would assume she didn't leave  him
> because he is a wonderful, happy person to be with - perhaps he was
> already depressed, perhaps its a drinking problem - either of those
> situations might cause someone to behave in an inappropriate manner.
>
> BEFORE you flame me for this message- I do not condone his
> actions.  At
> all.  I am glad Sandy filed a restraining order, but I am hoping that
> he has 'shot his wad' so to speak and will leave her alone.  I think
> that attempting to have him arrested for trying to make an ebay
> purchase may a)  make him more unstable (and i don't think its because
> he is a jerk, i really think he is unstable and b) may cause him to be
> more abusive to Sandy.
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Michael Corrigan" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:30 pm
> Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
>
> > I agree with your sister Sandy.  Step out of your situation for a
> > second
> > and ask yourself, what advice would you give to someone else in
> > your
> > situation?  I think that should help you decide what to do.
> >
> > Also, by allowing him to get away with this, you are, at least in
> > his
> > mind, saying that it's ok to do this and he will keep doing it.
> > If you
> > need support, I'm sure that there are a myriad of organizations
> > out
> > there that have the resources to help you with these things.  I
> > just
> > afraid that he will continue to escalate this and by doing
> > something to
> > stop him, you will most likely be able to break the momentum.
> > Don't
> > allow yourself to be in position one day where you find yourself
> > saying
> > "If I only would have done this or that, then I might have been
> > able to
> > prevent this stuff"  Hind sight is 20/20 so use your past
> > experiences to
> > give you that vision.
> >
> >
> > Michael Corrigan
> > Programmer
> > Endora Digital Solutions
> > 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200
> > Lombard, IL 60148
> > 630-627-5055 x-136
> > 630/627-5255 Fax
> >  ----- Original Message -----
> >  From: Sandy Clark
> >  To: CF-Community
> >  Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:25 AM
> >  Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >
> >
> >  I've actually requested the forms from the US Attorney's office.
> > Its a
> > pain
> >  and I'm not sure its worth my time to pursue, but as my sister
> > said
> > when I
> >  told her (she is a US Marshall), "He's a big boy and has
> to reap the
> >  consequences of his actions."
> >
> >  So I guess I will pursue.  Hard to believe it has to come to
> > this
> > tho....
> >
> >  -----Original Message-----
> >  From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:05 PM
> >  To: CF-Community
> >  Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >
> >
> >  Its a power thing from the sounds of it. In other words, "You
> > can't do
> > this
> >  to me so I'm going to prove it to you by messing up stuff
> of yours!"
> >
> >  damn I hate that sort of adolescent tripe.
> >
> >  I'd seriously consider doing the wire fraud charges.
> >
> >  larry
> >
> >  --
> >  Larry C. Lyons
> >  ColdFusion/Web Developer
> >  Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer
> >  EBStor.com
> >  8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204
> >  Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795
> >  tel:   (703) 393-7930
> >  fax:   (703) 393-2659
> >  Web:   http://www.ebstor.com
> >         http://www.pacel.com
> >  email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >  Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done.
> >  --
> >
> >  > -----Original Message-----
> >  > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:59 AM
> >  > To: CF-Community
> >  > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  >
> >  >
> >  > Apart from moral support I don't think so.
> >  >
> >  > He's called me and threatened me.
> >  >
> >  > This weekend he broke into my ebay account, locked me out of
> >  > it and changed
> >  > my username and password so I couldn't get in and Attempted
> >  > to buy something
> >  > with that account.
> >  >
> >  > Luckily I was able to prove all of this to Ebay's
> >  > satisfaction and not only
> >  > did they restore my account, they actually ended up deleting
> >  > his.  (which
> >  > surprised me no end!)
> >  >
> >  > I'm contemplating filing criminal charges (wire fraud)
> against him
> >  >
> >  > Funny thing is I just want him to leave me alone.  You'd
> >  > figure if someone
> >  > moved 3000 miles from you,you would get the picture???
> >  >
> >  > Sandy
> >  >
> >  > -----Original Message-----
> >  > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:50 AM
> >  > To: CF-Community
> >  > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  >
> >  >
> >  > On the first part, that's great.
> >  >
> >  > As for the second, that sucks.
> >  >
> >  > Anything we can do to help?
> >  >
> >  > larry
> >  >
> >  > --
> >  > Larry C. Lyons
> >  > ColdFusion/Web Developer
> >  > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer
> >  > EBStor.com
> >  > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204
> >  > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795
> >  > tel:   (703) 393-7930
> >  > fax:   (703) 393-2659
> >  > Web:   http://www.ebstor.com
> >  >        http://www.pacel.com
> >  > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >  > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done.
> >  > --
> >  >
> >  > > -----Original Message-----
> >  > > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:54 AM
> >  > > To: CF-Community
> >  > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > > <cfset Answer = true>
> >  > > <cfset answer = "good">
> >  > >
> >  > > 5 miles from home, at my contracting rate and no Overtime!!!
> >  > >
> >  > > Very Glad I am not in LA after this past week.
> >  > >
> >  > > I actually had to file for a restraining order on my ex and
> >  > > he is still in
> >  > > LA.  What a mess.
> >  > >
> >  > > -----Original Message-----
> >  > > From: Michael Corrigan [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:37 AM
> >  > > To: CF-Community
> >  > > Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > > By the use of upper case, I'm assuming that you got a new gig?
> >  > > True/False?
> >  > >
> >  > > <cfif answer eq "True">
> >  > >     good/bad?
> >  > >     <cfif answer neq "Bad">
> >  > >         CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
> >  > >     <cfelse>
> >  > >         Well, look at it this way...you could still be
> in LA ;^)
> >  > >     </cfif>
> >  > > <cfelse>
> >  > >     My Bad! Here's a muffin...and a beer.
> >  > > </cfif>
> >  > >
> >  > > Michael Corrigan
> >  > > Programmer
> >  > > Endora Digital Solutions
> >  > > 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200
> >  > > Lombard, IL 60148
> >  > > 630-627-5055 x-136
> >  > > 630/627-5255 Fax
> >  > >   ----- Original Message -----
> >  > >   From: Sandy Clark
> >  > >   To: CF-Community
> >  > >   Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:27 AM
> >  > >   Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >   The only thing that was fusebox in that project was that
> > they
> > had
> >  > >   fuseactions. Other than that, it was so screwed up, it
> >  > wasn't funny.
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >   I'm a big fusebox proponent,  Unfortunately, they won't be
> > using  > > fusebox in
> >  > >   my NEW JOB!!!!!!
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >   -----Original Message-----
> >  > >   From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > >   Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:03 AM
> >  > >   To: CF-Community
> >  > >   Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >   fusebox fixes alot of these issues
> >  > >
> >  > >   ----- Original Message -----
> >  > >   From: "Sandy Clark" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> >  > >   Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:05 am
> >  > >   Subject: RE: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >
> >  > >   > At the last place I was at, they weren't ready for me to
> > do
> > the
> >  > >   > project I
> >  > >   > was hired to do and threw me at doing QA testing on
> >  > > another project.
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > I have never seen code where every query in a page was
> >  > named "Q".
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > Comments on code read something like
> >  > >   > <!-- Now increment a by one --->
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > However Custom Tags were never commented by were named
> > something
> >  > >   > scary like
> >  > >   > <CF_RunFromScriptA>
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > I feel your pain.  C, I really really do.
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
> >  > >   > Sandra Clark
> >  > >   > Macromedia Certified Advanced Coldfusion 5.0 Developer
> >  > >   > Shayna Productions
> >  > >   > http://www.shayna.com
> >  > >   > [EMAIL PROTECTED] <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > -----Original Message-----
> >  > >   > From: C. Hatton Humphrey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> >  > >   > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:57 AM
> >  > >   > To: CF-Community
> >  > >   > Subject: Screams of Anguish
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > Okay, I've got to vent somewhere, and since we're all CF
> > people
> >  > >   > here I can
> >  > >   > do so and not completely confuse my audience.
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > I am tasked with updating and maintaining a B2B EC site
> > that
> > has
> >  > >   > been in
> >  > >   > existence for over 3 years.  I just recently (November)
> > moved
> > it
> >  > >   > from FoxPro
> >  > >   > to SQL Server for a datasource.  Now I'm doing more
> >  > mods to it and
> >  > >   > am having
> >  > >   > to deal with 800 and 1,500 line pages that have the same
> > query
> > 4
> >  > >   > times with
> >  > >   > one ID reference different.
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > I think the great Geek Cartoonist Illiad said it best in
> >  > > this strip:
> >  > >   > http:
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   > C. Hatton Humphrey, Developer
> >  > >   > Fisher, Towne & Associates
> >  > >   > 716-839-2141 x336
> >  > >   > [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >   >
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  > >
> >  >
> >  >
> >
> >
> >
>
>

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