We are on the same page in essence but in practice Judith lets the kids get away with a LOT more than I do. She was raised by an overprotective mother who gave everything the benefit of the doubt without thought of the actual situation or logic. Judith is very much the same way with the kids. She lets a lot slide and that 'benefit of the doubt' thing really overpowers her at times. "maybe she was sleeping on it. (the book)". My response was that Hinda Tova was awake, laying on top of the hard covered book with her finger in it (a not very comfortable position). The situation was clear to me but for Judith it was a 'but maybe'. She's a better mother than I.
Counseling is definitely on our list of things to do, sooner rather than later. And Judith got some good ideas from the lecture last night. Now we just have to apply them. On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:20 AM, Erika L. Walker <elwal...@ruwebby.com>wrote: > > That's what I was gonna ask. When she said "she'd wait for mommy to come > home" it kinda stated that Judith lets her do things you don't - in which > case you aren't on the same page. > > I know it's not cheap - but if you really value your relationship with her > (which we know you do) - go to family counseling for several sessions. It's > worth it in the long run. Really. Treat her like the adult she's trying to > be, and sit her in front of a stranger and the three of you tell them > exactly what you feel - whether you like it or not. > > Hard exercises, but good for you. > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 9:55 PM, Michael Grant <mgr...@modus.bz> wrote: > > > Not to dig too deep, but are you and your > > wife on the same page with parenting? Would she pull that stuff if mom > was > > home? > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296489 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5
