Yeah i think you guys are right.....comparing the worst case scenarios: if they are overly sad about saying goodbye, I should be able to get them through that. but if I were to come back without the dog and they said "we wanted to say goodbye"....well, there's nothing I could do about that, and that might grow resentment against ME.
Thanks all. On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 1:09 PM, Ray Champagne <[email protected]> wrote: > > I'm sorry to hear about this. I just had to do it a few short months ago > myself. Can't imagine having to make *two* tough decisions around the same > topic. > > Not being a parent, not sure what my advice is worth, but I'd agree with > those here that say you need to let them say their goodbyes. The harder of > two choices is almost always the right choice, IMO. > > > On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 12:57 PM, Jerry Milo Johnson <[email protected] > >wrote: > > > > > I was scanning family slides last week. Amongst them were photos of me > and > > my first dog. Which I got @ age 3, in my Christmas stocking. We only had > > the dog a couple of months, and had to get rid of it (hawaii, fleas, > baby, > > 1960s before flea medicine). I have fond memories, but no major trauma. > > They will be OK, I think. > > > > > > > > > > On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 1:42 PM, Bruce Sorge <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > I have to agree with Larry on this one. Although my daughter was older > > than > > > your kids, I feel it was good to let her know ahead of time so she > could > > > say goodbye. There was a lot of dust in the room that day, that's for > > sure. > > > Anyway, having a sense of closure is always a good thing in my mind. > > > > > > > > > On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 1:39 PM, Larry C. Lyons <[email protected] > > > >wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Be honest. Tell the kids what is wrong and why. And they will need to > > say > > > > good-bye. When Alexis was just a bit older we had to euthanize one of > > the > > > > ferrets. That's how we handled it, she got the opportunity to say > > > goodbye. > > > > > > > > > > > > On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 1:36 PM, GMoney <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > So we have to put our dog down. My son is 4 and daughter 2, both > > just a > > > > few > > > > > months from turning 5 and 3. > > > > > > > > > > Should i tell them before I take the dog in, and explain that she > > won't > > > > be > > > > > coming back...so that they can say a goodbye? Would they feel > > > > overwhelming > > > > > sadness? I'm ok with them feeling sad that she's going away, but i > > > don't > > > > > want them to be emotionally wrecked. > > > > > > > > > > I think the 2 year old is probably young enough to just move on, > but > > > Ben > > > > > will definitely know that he's going to lose his pet forever. > > > > > > > > > > I dunno...anyone had to deal with this at a similar age for their > > kids? > > > > > > > > > > I'm thinking I should either: > > > > > > > > > > 1) Tell them the day before i'm taking her in that she's leaving > for > > > good > > > > > tomorrow, and they should say goodbye...then just answering their > > > > questions > > > > > honestly afterwards or > > > > > 2) Not telling them before hand, and waiting until they ask where > the > > > dog > > > > > is before explaining why she had to go away. > > > > > > > > > > Advice? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:369223 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/unsubscribe.cfm
