Hi Millie, Sorry to hear about your spouse but sometimes it just happens. As far as some of your so called friends, well I had a bunch of them as well. There are actually three kinds of people that may consider themselves friends.
The first are people that really care. They will call or visit with you and show you their support. Then there are those that may or may not even call you once or maybe that once and never bother to call or visit you ever again. Now we come to the third kind of people. Once they find out that you have cancer you will never hear from them. They must think that if they talk to you or visit with you then the cancer will be transfered to them. I had or still have some of these people in my life. The first kind I still have. The second kind, well once I was out of transplant I called them and asked why they didn't call me but one time and they told me that they just didn't know what to say but they were all glad that I survived my ordeal. I kept some of them as friends. Then the third kind, I never had anything to do with them. Even today when I was in the hospital for three weeks in 2011 one so called friend for over forty years never even came to visit me even though he was less then fifteen minutes from the hospital. By the way, I once helped save his life, but he seemed to forget that, So Millie, that is what happens with so called friends as you already know. 18's Marty On Sun, Apr 21, 2013 at 5:29 PM, C.M. Houtz <ho...@ptd.net> wrote: > ** > *Without going into details....I do agree with you and your message is so > true. I have a spouse who couldn't tell you much about what's wrong with > his wife (me) of 53 years. It hurts, but I get past it and deal with the > people who do care. I have 3 wonderful sons who keep on top of things. > The youngest lives with me. I couldn't do much without him. He is so > caring and loving and I'm blessed to have a wonderful son like him. The > others live out of PA but call and are always caring about me. I guess > they take after their Mom as I am one who takes care of everyone, even > now. I don't understand the other kind of people, but figure it's them > that have the problem. When I developed Breast Cancer 20 years ago, I lost > many, so called, friends. I couldn't understand it as I was always there > for them. You learn a lot when you have Cancer. People can't deal with > it. I found the same when I lost my Daughter. People would avoid you when > a hug would have meant so much. I have many wonderful friends.....mostly > ones that enjoy the same things I enjoy. They would do anything for me and > have. These are the real keepers. I also have old friends from many years > ago that write and support me all of the time, so I feel fortunate. Some > of the best support is given to me here on line. We all share similar > things and understand what the other one is going through. There is so > much warmth and caring and even though it's the internet, I feel surrounded > by it all and, believe me, it helps me through some rough days. Marty, you > are one of the best and I do hope that whatever you put in the wall comes > to be. You take care my friend.* > *18's to you.* > *Millie* > > ----- Original Message ----- > *From:* Marty Gartenberg <wa2...@gmail.com> > *To:* CMLHope@googlegroups.com > *Sent:* Sunday, April 21, 2013 2:59 PM > *Subject:* [CMLHope] The Keeper > > This is actually the story of my life. You are all my friends and I > value your friendship and wanted to share this with you. Now, before you > read the rest let me explain what a keeper really is to me. Anyone can be a > keeper. I have seen it many times, a wife helping her husband, a husband > helping his wife. A friend helping his or her friend. People that really > care about each other trying to always be there for them to help. > > > However, I have also seen the opposite. I have seen that sometimes when > people become ill then their partner or friend decides to leave. When I > was going through my bone marrow my wife Shelly never waivered, but some of > my so called friends decided to leave, and I never forgot. It is these > kinds of people that were never keepers to begin with. > > > I read and see the love and compassion of the people on this site and I am > simply amaized in seeing one human being selflessly helping another human > being. When one has some problems and another can comfort that person then > they are what I would call a keeper. > > > 18's > > > Marty > > > Dear Keeper, > > I grew up in the 50's with practical parents. A mother, God love her, who > washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the > original recycle queen, before they had a Name for it... A father who was > happier getting old shoes fixed than buying new ones, which we couldn't > afford anyway, but in spite of that we still made due. > > Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their best friends lived > barely a wave away. I can see them now, Dad in trousers, tee shirt and a > hat, and Mom in a house dress, broom in one hand and dish-towel in the > other. It was the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio, > screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress, things we keep. > > It was a way of life, and sometimes it made me crazy All that re-fixing, > eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. > Throwing things away meant you knew there'd always be more. > But then my mother died, and on that clear summer's night, in the warmth > of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes > there isn't any more. > > Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away...never > to return. So... While we have it.. it's best we love it... And care for > it.... And fix it when it's broken.... And heal it when it's sick. > > This is true... For illness, For marriage.... And old cars... And children > with bad report cards..... Dogs and cats with bad hips.... And aging > parents..... And grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, > because we are worth it. Some things we keep. Like a best friend that moved > away or a classmate we grew up with. > > There are just some things that make life important, like people we know > who are special..... And so, we keep them close! > > Good friends are like stars.... You don't always see them, but you know > they are always there. > > Keep them close > > -- > -- > [CMLHope] > A support group of http://cmlhope.com > ------------------------------------------------- > > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To post to this group, send email to CMLHope@googlegroups.com > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > cmlhope-unsubscr...@googlegroups.com > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/CMLHope > --- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to cmlhope+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out. > > > > -- > -- > [CMLHope] > A support group of http://cmlhope.com > ------------------------------------------------- > > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To post to this group, send email to CMLHope@googlegroups.com > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > cmlhope-unsubscr...@googlegroups.com > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/CMLHope > --- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to cmlhope+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out. > > > -- -- [CMLHope] A support group of http://cmlhope.com ------------------------------------------------- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "CMLHope" group. 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