hello everyone, I do not want to speak for Jessica, but I do know that it is common for parents of blind children to be overprotective and not allow them to grow and develop as independent adults ... my husband is one of them. He is 48 years old and we still have difficulty in getting his mother to cut the apron strings. She continuously insists on wanting to do everything for us, not understanding that we are completely capable of doing it ourselves.
I think what Jessica may need right now is to meet some people close to her own age that are experiencing or has experienced the same thing. I know a young lady who has overcome the exact difficulty. I met her years ago at the orientation and adjustment center that I attended. The poor thing could not do a thing for herself becauwse her mother would never let her learn. Since then, she has completed independent living training, completed college and has a great job, living on her own and prospering. This is a very personal and difficult situation and I think what we should do, If you give the go ahead, Jessica, if anyone has someone they know close to her age, that could be of support to her in working through this, you could contact her privately and put her in touch. It's just nicer to have people that can relate to exactly how we are feeling. I am sorry, Jessica, I just don't want you to feel uncomfortable with having to explain anything to anyone ... everyone on here is very kind and wants to help, but without knowing exactly what you are dealing with, no one can help. Please don't be afraid that anyone will interfere or intrude without you asking for help. :) So just let everyone know how you feel about my suggestion and I'm sure we'll find you the right support for what you are dealing with. Heidi -----Original Message----- From: cookinginthedark-boun...@acbradio.org [mailto:cookinginthedark-boun...@acbradio.org] On Behalf Of Charles Rivard Sent: 24 January 2012 09:50 To: cookinginthedark@acbradio.org Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food Ask them this: "If you cannot teach me, and if nobody around here can, and if it is important, and I have to learn it, where am I going to? If qualified people can come to our home to teach me, fine, but if they cannot, and the training is available, isn't it worth going the distance? If you really want me to be independent, isn't this the way to go? If not, what is?" Ask these questions calmly, and explain your needs and desires. --- Shepherds are the best beasts, but Labs are a close second. ----- Original Message ----- From: "jessica" <jessicabrown...@gmail.com> To: <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org> Sent: Monday, January 23, 2012 9:20 PM Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > They won't let me because it is too far away from home for there liking. > > sent from my BrailleNote > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Charles Rivard" <wee1s...@fidnet.com > To: <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org > Date sent: Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:14:13 -0600 > Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > > They won't let you? What is their reasoning? This one problem of cutting > food is a prime example of why you should be allowed to attend such a > facility, especially if they, meaning your parents and or other family > members, nor friends, can adequately instruct and assist you in doing what > needs to be done. > > --- > Shepherds are the best beasts, but Labs are a close second. > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "jessica" <jessicabrown...@gmail.com > To: <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org > Sent: Monday, January 23, 2012 8:41 PM > Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > > > I can not get help from a rehab teacher and I can not go to a blind school > because my mom and dad will not let me. I would love to go there though. > > sent from my BrailleNote > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Charles Rivard" <wee1s...@fidnet.com > To: <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org > Date sent: Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:35:07 -0600 > Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > > Why not? This is something they should provide, or, if need be, they can > send you to a rehab center, or you can go to one, to take classes on stuff > like this. Just a thought. Another thought is this: Did, or do, you > attend a school for the blind? Although they should teach these skills, > they unfortunately quite often do not. > > --- > Shepherds are the best beasts, but Labs are a close second. > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "jessica" <jessicabrown...@gmail.com > To: <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org > Sent: Monday, January 23, 2012 6:03 PM > Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > > > I can not get help from a rehab teacher. > > sent from my BrailleNote > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Allison Fallin <afal...@cox.net > To: Cooking in the Dark <cookinginthedark@acbradio.org > Date sent: Mon, 23 Jan 2012 17:42:36 -0600 > Subject: Re: [CnD] cutting food > > Hi Jessica, > I know how hard it is, particularly as a teenager, to not be > worried about how things look. Your concern reminds me of a > story my husband tells. When he was in his late teens, his older > brother urged him to use a cane or dog. He was reluctant, > because it would make him look blind. As his brother said: > "well, you are blind, and people can see that." Once he thought > about it, he knew that was true. > I came in late on this thread, so you may have answered this. > Can you get any help from a rehab teacher? It's hard to have > family members teach you, at least it was for me. > One further thought. Given the state of the airline industry > right now, you won't have to worry about cutting food on a plane. > You never have to cut peanuts, assuming you even get those. 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