On Thu, Mar 25, 2004 at 10:45:28PM -0700, s. keeling wrote: > Incoming from Monique Y. Herman: > > > > sore point for me at the moment. I'm pretty sure I'll be changing my > > name to make him happy, but it weirds me out. I never fantasized about > > Why?!? Tell him to change his own damn name! When he refuses, ask > him why! > > This annoys me on a computing level too. You're now going to have to > get all your usernames changed to the new one ... For what?!? > > Marriage shouldn't have to mean becoming someone else's property!
I usually watch "To The Contrary," the show about Women's issues on PBS on Fridays. Recently this subject came up, and all these journalists / manhattanites talked about how they and all their friends had started marriage with hyphenated names and just slowly dropped the hyphenated part, just keeping the man's part, because it was confusing for the kids, and for simplicity. I found it primarily fascinating because I love to watch people changing their minds. These successful women eventually made their way to the what they once didn't like, by their own choice, not being compelled. My ex-wife once gave me some good advice apropos to this: if you get a chance, listen to what old people tell you. Chances are they've been through what you're going through and will tell you something worth hearing, cause they used to be you. -- To UNSUBSCRIBE, email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] with a subject of "unsubscribe". Trouble? Contact [EMAIL PROTECTED]
