Yeah, I know of your kids. I do love my parents very much. I know they did and still do what they think is best.
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Duveyoung <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Bwaytheatrediva, > > You proably know my kids....same age bracket. Cheer? Eden? > > The thing to do to get this anger out of your system is to do whatever > it takes to get clarity with your parents. Don't quit them -- they're > gold. Maybe gold that needs polishing, but gold. > > They did what they did because ALL parents do this exact same thing to > their kids, and they'd be wrong if they did otherwise. A kid needs > structure -- and, now, at your age, you get to change everything, but > without a structure growing up, you'd be really screaming bloody > murder about their parenting. > > "HOW" they parented you is another issue. If they just beat it into > you and would not engage you in an educational dialog, then that's a > good "first issue" to breach with them. They may simply be doing what > their parents did to them and are blind to it. You are the only > person who can get them to examine this issue. Believe me, your poopy > diapers stunk, but at 3:30 A.M. they got up and changed your drawers > -- they paid dues you will never know until you have a kid. Cut them > a break -- almost no one posting here still does TM, so we're all well > aware of how stupid adults can be, and we have a compassionate > perspective that you can also find in your heart and amplify -- the > seed form is there, look for it! Just because life didn't arrange > things such that yer ma and pa got parenting down pat, you don't have > any reason to toss them on the rubbish pile. If you left them behind > today, on your death bed they'd still be issue numero uno for ya. > > Believe me, you could be a serial killer and your folks will be in > your corner -- most parents would. There is simply no other love like > a parent's love -- even when they're completely wrong headed. > > Nor will you ever love anyone as much as your "blood" -- your kids and > your parents. > > It will be such a blessing to get clear with them, then, even if they > refuse to change, at least the line between the two > mexican-stander-offers will be precisely drawn, and a separate peace > can be discovered. > > I made a million mistakes as a parent -- it comes with the territory. > > Forgive them, and release the even the least nuance of shackles on > your heart. > > Edg > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "bwaytheatrediva" > <bwaytheatrediva@> wrote: > > > > Hi everyone. I'm 23 years old and I've lived in FF my whole life. I > > have a huge amount of bitterness/hatred toward the TMO. It was shoved > > down my throat from literally the moment I was born. MSAE was a kind > > of hell that I wouldn't wish on anyone. A lot of the people I love > > most are in the TMO. I always say I hate the cult, but I dearly love > > some of the people in it. Anyway, that's my intro. I look forward to > > talking with you. > > >
