--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "sparaig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "jim_flanegin" > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > wrote: > > <snip> > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "sparaig" > > > > > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB > > > > > > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > > > > > > [...] > > > > > > > > > If that's what you want out of a spiritual teacher, I'm > > > > > > > > > sure there are many out there who will provide it. Me, > > > > > > > > > I'd be happier with someone who told me the truth. > > <snip> > > > > > > Of course, the ignorant are always free to continue suffering > > > > > > eternally if that is their choice; forever approaching > > > > > > freedom and then backing away, because the perceived pain of > > > > > > confronting their boundaries is greater than the perceived > > > > > > reward of freedom from suffering. Totally their choice. > > > > > > Personally, I call that fence sitting and it has never any > > > > > > much benefit for me. > > > > > > > > > > How many kids have you raised? > > > > > > > > I am raising my daughter (14) if that's what you mean. The point > > > > being that there must be a balance to raise a child properly and > > > > give them loving and good guidance. If I was always following my > > > > child's lead, she wouldn't like it much, nor would I. To avoid > > > > sharing wisdom with someone is absurd, unless you have none to > > > share. > > > > > > A 14-year-old is basically an immature adult. BIIIG difference > > > between 14 and, say, 4. If you deal with a 4 year old as though > > > they're an adult, they may well not have a clue what you're talking > > > about, NOT because they don't have the life-experiences to related, > > > but because they don't have the processing ability to grasp the > > > concepts. > > > > Right. Suppose you told your 4-year-old child that > > one day you would die, and they would never see you > > again? And you added that while this probably > > wouldn't happen for many years, it very well could > > happen tomorrow? > > > > That would certainly be "the truth," but telling your > > child this "truth" would be very likely to do them > > some serious psychological damage. > > Or it might just enable the child to grow up with > a realistic approach to death and dying, as opposed > to the fantasyland of the Western approach to dying. > > What you described is the way that Tibetans I knew > in Santa Fe raised their kids. Those kids were among > the happiest and most well-adjusted I've ever met.
It also isn't what I was talking about anyway. Death/not-death isn't part of the processing thing, as far as I can tell, at least not past the age where kids learn to talk in sentences. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
