--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > On the contrary, I think we should mention Ann's hubby in > > > > > > every post from now on. I for one would like to know what > > > > > > peculiar magic he possessed that enabled him to saddle up > > > > > > that spirited filly and ride her off into the sunset. > > > > > > > > > > Yeesh. Although I'm in full sympathy with the sentiment, I > > > > > can't help pointing out what an incredibly sexist metaphor > > > > > you've used to express it. > > > > > > > > Unlike you, Ann had no objection to it. In fact, she picked > > > > it up and ran with it. Lighten up, authfriend! > > > > > > It's a sexist metaphor regardless of whether Ann objected > > > to it. She was responding graciously to the compliment and > > > ignoring the sexism.
You read it right. I agree with what you say here, completely. >>>Since the compliment wasn't directed > > > at me, I have no need to be gracious and can call it as I > > > see it, see? Don't be such a pompous ass. You could have > > > said, "Yes, I guess it was, sorry about that!" and have > > > come out smelling like a rose. > > > > I'm not sorry about it at all. I like it. I chose it > > deliberately, with a little bit of a smile. What you are > > doing here is what you do so often -- getting offended on > > behalf of someone who is not the least bit offended. > > Let me say it another way: That Ann did not express offense > does NOT mean that the metaphor wasn't sexist, or that sexism > isn't offensive. I wasn't offended on Ann's behalf; she gets > to decide whether she was offended by your sexism. Correct, and I thought I might be for just a moment or two but the unexpected nature of Feste's post after many weeks of not interacting with him was pleasant in spite of the sexist overtone. I figured I could let it go and focus on a different aspect of what he was saying although I considered addressing the fact that he used a metaphor that implied some man had "broken" the spirited filly and rode her off after dominating and taming her. And since I know that that is not actually the case I can ignore it and just let it go - this time. Now I can think of others who I might not be so forgiving of... But Judy, I love you for what you wrote; you are still the dominant lioness here and let no one forget it. I certainly won't. And lions just won't accept a saddle, let alone a bridle. >I get to > decide whether I find it offensive, not her, and *certainly* > not you. > > Get it now? > > You've just told us that you enjoy making sexist remarks. > Now we know something about you we didn't know before. > Everyone is entitled to decide on their own behalf whether > they find that cute, or deplorable. >
