--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Carol" wrote: > > Barry why are you hung up on cyberstalking? > > I've only run into a few people online who consistently > called "cyberstalker" and/or are/were paranoid about > cyberstalking. Of those, I think only one had a real > cyberstalker; the others shouting about it were simply > paranoid and had delusions that they or others were being > stalked.
That's Barry. One of his most persistent delusions has been that I have followed him through many different electronic forums. In fact, there have been only two forums I joined after he did--alt.meditation.transcendental, where I encountered him for the first time; and FFL, to which he expressly *invited* me and other participants in alt.meditation.transcendental. All the other forums we've both been on, I was there first; he followed *me*. But when you are convinced the world revolves around you, as Barry is, you tend to see things differently from what they actually are. > But, since you have apparently decided to not communicate with me, I don't > expect an answer...but I'm still curious. > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote: > > > > I thank Judy for her reply. You really can't GET > > a more accurate picture of how the cyberstalker > > sees reality than this. > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" wrote: > > > > > > Since I'm obviously one of the people Barry is libeling with > > > the term "cyberstalker," I'll contribute my interpretation of > > > what Barry describes: > > > > > > Starting way back when, person A harasses and picks fights > > > with person B. Person B repeatedly makes mincemeat of him. > > > > > > After many years, person A, to save some shreds of self- > > > respect, decides to stop directly harassing person B. > > > > > > Person B is happy with this, because she doesn't get any > > > backtalk when she points out his bad behavior (which has by > > > no means been limited to his attacks on her). > > > > > > Person A is unable to tolerate being called out on his bad > > > behavior so relentlessly and accurately. So he attacks > > > person B indirectly in post after post. Of course each > > > time he does this, person B makes mincemeat of him again, > > > and he can't do anything about it because he can't be > > > seen to be engaging with person B. > > > > > > Person B, again, finds this situation deeply satisfying. > > > > > > Person A develops various strategems to make him seem to > > > himself in his own eyes to have "dumped" person B, but, > > > sadly, nobody else is fooled. > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote: > > > > > > > > Contrary to popular belief, IMO it's not about vengeance, or > > > > retribution, or any of the other equally petty motivations often > > > > attributed to chronic cyberstalkers. In my opinion, it's about > > > > attention. > > > > > > > > In almost all cases of cyberstalking, if you go back far enough, what > > > > you find is a case of someone who has glommed onto another human being, > > > > and the "high" they get from interacting with them, one-on-one. It > > > > really doesn't *matter* what the nature of the relationship was, or > > > > whether there was any real "high" there or whether the future > > > > cyberstalker imagined it -- they *got off* on the interaction, so it was > > > > "real" to them. > > > > > > > > And then the other person cut them off at the pump. > > > > > > > > They dumped them. > > > > > > > > The dumpee, of course, feels insulted at being publicly dumped, but that > > > > IMO is not the real motivating factor. It's the having been "cut off at > > > > the pump" thang that matters. > > > > > > > > For most normal human beings, what you do after having been dumped is > > > > MOVE ON, and don't dwell on it any longer than is necessary. For the > > > > cyberstalker, this is almost biologically impossible, because they have > > > > become so habituated to the object of their obsession's attention that > > > > they feel somehow deprived without it. > > > > > > > > So the QUEST, for the cyberstalker mentality, becomes How To > > > > Re-establish The Connection: "How do I get this person to respond to me > > > > again?" > > > > > > > > The various tactics used by cyberstalker vary -- harassment, insults, > > > > flattery, escalating to begging, pleading, and near-libelous accusations > > > > -- but the intent is always the same: "Talk to me again. Interact with > > > > me again. Give me an opportunity to lure you into yet another direct > > > > confrontation, the end product of which will be to establish to unseen > > > > lurkers that I have bested you." > > > > > > > > Stupid stalkees fall for this shit. Experienced stalkees rarely do. > > > > > > > > That's all. This was Just Another Turq Rap, posted over coffee at my New > > > > Favorite Cafe. It's just thrown out onto the Internet like spaghetti > > > > thrown against the refrigerator, to see whether it "sticks." No one need > > > > reply to it, unless they feel that my rap describes them personally, and > > > > they're so affronted by that description that they feel they just *have* > > > > to respond. > > > > > > > > > >
