--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "tomandcindytraynoratfairfieldlis" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Judy writes: > Sure. But it would be more accurate to say (of the > ant and Barry), "That isn't the kind of attack that > can do you any damage." What makes it an attack is > the intention of the attacker, not the effect on the > attackee. > > Tom T: > The thought stopper for me in this was who and how is the intention of > the attacker known. By inferrence it can not be an atack until the > intention is known so it starts out as just a statement intended to > cause a laugh. At some point it would appeat that the person recieving > the statement intending to cause a laugh has to go inside and make a > judgement that they know that the writer of said statement intended to > hurt them specifically. It kind of sounds like mind reading in that > the uninttending attacker has to read the mind of the attackee to > know AH this will really p*ss this one off and then goes ahead and > posts it anyway. On the other hand the supposed attacked may have a > world view that assumes all comments are attacks, or the supposed > attacker has a personal vendetta that is a known fact. This seems > pretty convoluted to me. Maybe we just need to laugh more and worry > less. Tom T
I agree. There is a fair amount of assuming motives, moods, agendas, and intentions on FFL. And Life. Its pretty funny at times. Unless you really know a person well, in person, for years (and even then its problematic), it is a cognitive error to attribute moods, intentions and all. Its stuff in one's head that is shaping their vision. OTOT, a working set of hypotheses of a persons moods and intentions may help one be more sesnsitive. For example, thinking, "It sounds like he MAY be mad at something. Just in case, I will be careful not to use ambiguous language, or jokes that might be misinterprested." ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/UlWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
