--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Vaj <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > On Mar 25, 2007, at 1:17 AM, Rick Archer wrote: <snip> > > It's wonderful to see her loving people unconditionally for > > hours on end, many of them crying as you cried when you > > watched the horse.
(Just an additional comment--it's not clear to me how my getting teary at a magnificently gorgeous performance by a horse and rider is even remotely similar to someone crying because they're receiving unconditional love.) Maybe someday such people will be commonplace > > and harmony will prevail in the world. > > Makes me wonder what happens if our "inner child" has Reactive > Attachment Disorder? Isn't that what RAD is? >From Wikipedia: Reactive Attachment Disorder (sometimes called "RAD") (DSM-IV 313.89) is a psychophysiologic condition (1) with markedly disturbed and developmentally inappropriate social relatedness in most contexts that begins before five years of age and is associated with grossly pathological care. This pathological caregiving behaviour may consist of any form of neglect, abuse, mistreatment or abandonment. > In such a case, I would wonder--even if you inundated the RAD > person with perfect love, respect and attention--if the RAD > inner child could not and did not *trust* (with trust forming > the basis of emotional attachments and the ability to 'to the > position of the other' and walk a mile in their shoes so to > speak, to empathize), if this basic trust was not present, what > good would external love be? Hey, Vaj, here's an idea. Why don't you give it a shot, see what happens? > Do we have to love ourselves before we can accept > love from others? Yes. And loving oneself also makes it possible to tell the difference between people who are offering genuine love and those who are only making a pretense of it. (BTW, it was commonplace on alt.m.t for TM critics, Vaj prominently among them, to suggest that TM supporters--not just me by any means--had been emotionally damaged by parental abuse in childhood. It seems Vaj has now decided to port the tactic to FFL.)
