maybe this will help. I hope it doesn't hurt. But I always looked forward to going to pick up my babies' ashes. I felt glad to bring them home, and I didn't like them being away. Maybe, well of course I AM crazy, but I felt just like when I had to leave them for procedures, etc... when they were still living. They didn't like staying there and I wanted to get them home where they belonged.
I have a table in my bedroom where I keep the ashes of my cats who have passed through the years. I like knowing they are there with me, even though I know their 'spirit' is not in their ashes. I don't know. But I always wanted to go get them as soon as I could.
tonya
"MacKenzie, Kerry N." <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
"MacKenzie, Kerry N." <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
My heart goes out to all of you--Jamie, Marlene and Michelle. I just wanted to add that I think it is a tremendous amount to ask, to expect a grieving pet owner to go to the vet clinic and pick up the ashes of a beloved pet, when every other time you went through that door it was with hope, and with a pet that was still living and breathing. The associations are too strong, emotions too charged.The first time I had to have a pet euthanized was at the emergency clinic last Thanksgiving, and befuddled though I was, I knew there was no way I could bring myself to go and pick up ashes from my vet clinic. I would have been a mess in the clinic. I asked to have them delivered to my workplace instead. The vet tech was surprised and questioned my request, but to me it was a no-brainer. The ashes arrived in a plain brown box while I was busy doing other stuff, and it allowed me to delay my grief until I got home. I don't know why vets don't do this as a matter of routine?Is there someone that could go in your place, perhaps, Jamie? I totally understand your dread.Thinking of you all,Kerry-----Original Message-----
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Jamie Laws
Sent: Friday, May 27, 2005 9:22 PM
To: Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org
Subject: Recent lossesI am trying to step out of my own grief and offer condolences to others who have had losses. Michelle and Marlene, I think we have just had a rough week. Michelle lost both Fern and Pepsi on Sunday, I lost Andy on Monday, and Marlene lost Digby on Tuesday. I just got the call today from the vet that Andy's ashes are back and I can pick him up when I am ready. But I just couldn't do it today. I may go in the morning. I don't know why I am dreading that part so much.Anyway, I just wanted to tell you both how very sorry I am for your incredible losses. I can empathize with you and my heart aches with yours.Jamie__________________________________________________
This email and any files transmitted with it are confidential and intended solely for the use of the individual or entity to whom they are addressed. If you have received this email in error please notify the system manager. This message contains confidential information and is intended only for the individual named. If you are not the named addressee you should not disseminate, distribute or copy this e-mail.
Do You Yahoo!?
Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around
http://mail.yahoo.com
