My mother died at home. She was over 90 years old, had fallen and broken her
hip three years prior, would not go to the hospital to have it operated on
because she was a nurse and hated hospitals. I took care of her for the three
years that she survived. I had some help, which was very expensive but
couldn't do it all by myself. I allowed Mom to feel that she was in control
because she was quite a control freak all her life. She passed away in her
sleep in the afternoon after eating a small portion of ice cream and saying
thank you for everything to the caregiver. I was working online when the
caregiver came into my home office and told me that she thought my mom had
passed away. I don't know if Mom was in pain. She wouldn't allow pain killers
and wouldn't admit to feeling any discomfort. She had some sort of intestinal
blockage which the doctor who visited twice a month said was probably a
malignant tumor but Mom was stubborn and
wouldn't admit to having any pain from it. She had been a child actress and I
think she acted all her life, whenever she didn't want to face reality or do
something that was against her need for control. She was a talented woman who
did the practical thing and went to college, became a registered nurse and
worked in a medical office all her life. Dad was a doctor. He passed away
from Alzheimer's Disease 16 years before my mother. He also passed at home,
quietly after his usual dose of sleeping medication that he had been
prescribed. My Uncle, my Aunt, my Grandmother all passed away at home. The
younger generation promised the older ones that no one would be put in a
nursing home and no one was. But it was very hard on us all because we were
spread in two different areas of the country and we had to rely on hired help.
I don't know about Dad's side of the family except that one brother committed
suicide because of depression. Most of
the other members of the family never communicated with us because Dad married
outside of his religion and everyone there had the old fanatic idea about
religion and marriage.
Spay and Neuter your cats and dogs and your weird relatives and nasty neighbors
too!
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From: "dlg...@windstream.net" <dlg...@windstream.net>
To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org
Sent: Friday, September 28, 2012 11:38 PM
Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] Euthanasia
COULD GET EATEN BY A MOUNTAIN LION IN THE MOUNTAINS. HE MIGHT MISTAKE YOU FOR
PREY. MY LION JUST VISITS EVERY SO OFTEN. HE IS ON A DEER TRAIL AND WE TALK
FOR A COUPLE OF MINUTES AND THEN HE SAUNTERS ACROSS THE ROAD. HE/SHE IS SO
CLOSE THAT TO RUN WOULD BE FATAL. STANDING STILL AND TALKING IS BETTER.
---- Bonnie Hogue <ho...@sonic.net> wrote:
> Well, actually, that can lead to a stroke, which can be slow and gruesome ...
> Me, I've taken up mountain biking... Hope they find me collapsed on a
> hillside with a view!
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>
>
> On Sep 28, 2012, at 8:38 PM, Marcia Baronda <marciabmar...@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> > I have to tell you, that after watching my Mom go through the death
> > process, I have decided that high cholesterol is lookin pretty good to me!
> >
> > Sent from my iPad that my most awesome kids surprised me with, Christmas
> > 2010.
> >
> > On Sep 28, 2012, at 9:40 AM, <dlg...@windstream.net> wrote:
> >
> >> Sounds like my father! He also passed at home. He woke up hot and sweaty
> >> and said he wanted a bath. I started to bathe him and got his head done
> >> when I noticed him listing to one side. Tried to get him back to bed, but
> >> had to let him lie on floor rather than drop him. Did CPR, called 911,
> >> but he was gone before they got there. Miss him very much, but glad he
> >> went that way.
> >>
> >>
> >> ---- Lorrie <felineres...@frontier.com> wrote:
> >>> Good for him. Dying at home is the best way.
> >>> I want to croak at home in my own bed.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> On 09-26, Terri Brown wrote:
> >>>> My father who passed away this past December (may he rest in peace),
> >>>> passed away at home, with morphine drops and water if he wanted it. In
> >>>> his case, it was heart failure, and he didn't want to die in the
> >>>> hospital.
> >>>>
> >>>> He literally said to my sister (pardon the language) "I am sick of this
> >>>> fucking hospital. Take me home. I want to die on my couch."
> >>>>
> >>>> So that's what he did.
> >>>>
> >>>> Terri
> >>>>
> >>>> ----- Original Message -----
> >>>>
> >>>> From: [1]Lorrie
> >>>>
> >>>> To: [2]felvtalk@felineleukemia.org
> >>>>
> >>>> Sent: Wednesday, September 26, 2012 12:57 PM
> >>>>
> >>>> Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] Euthanasia
> >>>>
> >>>> I guess your mom requested no tubes, and this is why she only
> >>>> got morphine. I'm sure glad she had that. Hospice is usually
> >>>> very generous with it, whereas hospitals aren't. Never go to
> >>>> a hospital to die. They do everything they can to keep you alive
> >>>> and they never give patients enough pain medication. I've worked
> >>>> in hospitals and heard patients crying and moaning with no relief,
> >>>> because doctors are afraid patients might get addicted.
> >>>> This ridiculous when the person is gonna die anyway!!
> >>>> On 09-26, Marcia Baronda wrote:
> >>>>> My mom had morphine...hospice wouldn't allow fluids.
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> >>>> References
> >>>>
> >>>> 1. mailto:felineres...@frontier.com
> >>>> 2. mailto:felvtalk@felineleukemia.org
> >>>> 3. mailto:Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org
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