Oh Marsha, you don't need that counselor anyways. We all understand why you spent money on your animals. We have all done it. No counselor is going to give us the love and emotional peace that an animal does. I would agree that we all need to step back and take and take a look at what is financially possible in each of our life situations with regards to helping our animals. It doesn't matter if we are rich or poor we just all do the best we can, I for one will support you no matter what. Just like with Bob we have to help him do the best he can with his circumstances. It doesn't matter if he fails or succeeds with his babies. What matters is that he tried and did the best he could for them when no one else would and that they got to experience love and caring when they might never have had that opportunity. I am heartbroken knowing you are having such a hard time, I am right there with you, just trying to take one day at a time and make it through. We will both survive this Marsha, it's so very hard, but we are both going to get through it just doing the best we can. Please talk to us whenever you need to, I promise to be here for you.
Sent from my iPhone > On May 18, 2016, at 8:55 PM, Marsha <mar...@lynxe.com> wrote: > > I went to a counselor last month to help me cope with all that is on my > plate. During the 2nd session (1st one was the intake), he informed me that > I lacked common sense (regarding money and animals). Then he said he loves > animals too, and everybody lacks common sense in some way - some drink too > much, some eat too much, etc. When I told him that I wasn't looking for any > more cats to take in, he said, "Good for you!" All my brain processed was > the word "good", which made his statement come across as highly judgemental. > I was more anxious and feeling more hopeless after I left. Two things I was > seeking help for. I don't need that kind of help. I am pretty sure that > lacking common sense is not a diagnosis in any way. And even if it was, how > would you treat it? Plus I was very depressed and crying because the last > time I saw this counselor was the day before Brock died, and I still have > Noelle to care for (sinus cancer). I would like to tell him that HE lacked > common sense in saying such things to someone in the throes of depression. > > Marsha > > >> On 5/18/2016 6:30 PM, Amani Oakley wrote: >> Rachel >> >> I am just like you. I cry at commercials. Did you ever see the one where >> they put a lamp on the curb to be picked up for garbage? Who ever thought >> one could cry over the fate of an unloved and abandoned lamp for goodness >> sake?? >> >> My mom used to ask me why I was so insane to keep on taking these cats who >> would just go on to break my heart. I would take it so hard. But I told her >> that if the people who love cats so much aren't going to be the ones who >> save them and sacrifice for them, it sure as hell wasn't going to be the >> people who don't care about them. It will break your heart Rachel. There is >> no avoiding it or minimizing it, but you know you have done a truly >> wonderful wonderful thing and you go on to find another unbelievably >> deserving little sweetheart who also should know someone's love and >> devotion, while on this earth. Frankly, while it kills me to lose my babies, >> there is nothing at all more profoundly and intensely painful to me than a >> poor being who never saw any love or kindness. >> >> We are all doing our part, in this group, to help these furry angels. This >> gives me a sense of great purpose and hope. >> >> Amani > > > _______________________________________________ > Felvtalk mailing list > Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org > http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org _______________________________________________ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org
