Dear Aman, A very open heart letter you have written. Most of us go through this mental torture. Like that poem Cried Platos ghost, What Then? Some people suffer longer than others. However, it is important to realise that life is not always fare, but still you have to accept the way it is, making the most out of it.
Unfortunately, we tend to look only at the negative aspects of life and overlook the positive aspects. Theres also a practical way to look at it. This way means simply look at the things from your convenient point of view. Theres an excellent joke I recently read: Some say the glass is half full, some say the glass is half empty but I say, are you going to drink or think? Now thats the way to bring new fillip to your life Life is to be lived and enjoyed. Problems, troubles are an integral part of life. Thats what Buddha said. In fact he went to find a permanent remedy for the problems and sadness of life, only to realise that the sorrow is a part of life. One has to accept its presence, and then only can one know how to deal with it. >From your mail, you have three main issues. Ill try to show how they are not only related to your gayness : First : My eyes get wet, The answer was there for sure is "alone"... Read this :A man and a woman decide to get married. After a happy and successful togetherness of 40 years, the husband (or the wife) suddenly dies. The children are settled, nice to their alive parent, the financial status is fine, but still the remaining partner is alone and lost. He/she has only friends from same age group, but no partner to share personal issues. When a sportsman stands on No.1 platform to receive the gold medal, isnt he alone? In short the aloneness is not just a fate of a poor little gay. You have to learn to find the joy of aloneness, and mind you, its not the same as loneliness. Second: But i can't dare to tell him my tales because its a sin to tell my tales... Once you accept your aloneness, you will get over this problem easily. In any case, someone who tells tales about his/her conquests, is purely to satisfy his/her own self. Its simple to understand with an example : Someone comes and tells you about the joys of tasting duck liver à la poile with a good rosé and ewe cheese with jam of black cherries. How are YOU going to understand what it is and how are you going to relish it? Here, the storyteller (in this case, myself) alone relishes the taste and not the listener. You should treat the love stories of your friends in the same fashion, and start getting active to find your own match. (BTW, you must try tasting those French delicacies, they are yummmmmmmmm.. ) Finally : we have multiple partner, no faithfulness... He he.. Do you mean the married straight men do not cheat on their wives? And the married straight women do not take advantage of their absent husbands? The faithfulness, my friend is another word for lack of opportunity in many cases. Of course there are exceptions to this rule, but then thats why they are called exceptions. Well my friend, my fingers are getting numb by typing this long sermon and surely you have got bored by reading it. Hats off to you if you have managed to reach upto this line. I sincerely hope that you will start looking at life in a positive way, because thats THE way out of your gloom. Cheers Shailesh --- handsome_redfort <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Today i was sitting alone on my terrice, Thinking of > my future what > it would be > __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info ========================== This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking "Reply") will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
