Re: g_b shailesh!!

Thu, 04 Aug 2005 11:47:00 -0700

Hi Raahu,

 

Thanks a lot for the compliments and sorry for the delay in replying, which owes to the network problems after the rains.

 

I totally agree that a soul mate is highly necessary in life (not only for sex). However, Aman's mail reflects his prsent sense of "future aloneness", and that's the reason why I tried to console him with some words of assurance and hope. Since I understand the necessity of a soulmate, I suggested that he goes and looks for his "match". What I meant by my mail that an absence of a soulmate should not weigh someone down. I would go a step further and say that it happens sometimes that you HAVE a soulmate, but due to many reasons, you can't be with him physically when you desperately need it. This is one more situation of "aloneness", which applies to me. I think I have found mine, who lives in France. Though we share a lot of things via mails and cells, and though we meet once a year, ain't I still alone?
 
I exaggerated perhaps about the heterosexual wives, but you got to see in the eyes of a housewife (arranged marriage) who has spent 6-9 yrs of married life, to comprehend my viewpoint. This, mind you, is not an accusation, but merely an observation.
 
Cheers
Shailesh



raahu an <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Shailesh has done well, but what Aman,  I feel,  is talking about could be interpreted as a looking out for a soul mate [ even if that soul mate remains "unfaithful"].

While getting over the feeling of loneliness [ I do agree that aloneness with some planning in fact is many a times enjoyable, less stressful and opens us to varied explorations of life ( i do not mean sex here) ] could be worked upon by us, having a soul mate makes a BIG difference in one's life.  What Aman [ and many such] COUL:D mean is faceless sex and regular one night stands,  the fancy/urge for which could peter off in due course.

Also I do not see spouses in a heterosexual marriage looking for an extra marital relationship at the drop of a hat. Polarized media stories make us see this issue in a larger than life form.

Best wishes,

R

25.7.2005

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