Hey Suhail,
What is the "scene" that every gay person is supposed to know about
long-term relationships. It's all a matter of when someone truly wants
to settle down. My partner and I would have been together for 21
years. He died ten years ago from cancer. My two best friends will be
celebrating their 15th anniversary on Sunday. We're a group of friends
in our mid 40s.
Things we learned about relationships, whether it be romantic or
friendship, is it must built on a solid foundation; open and honest
communication are essential; and learning to give positive charges
Praise, agreeing with a good idea verbally.
Affection
Understanding, listening
Open and honest expression
Connection and involvement
Cooperation, and listening
Acceptance, tolerance
Fun, humor
Honor, speaking well of partner
Showing positive interest
Verbal tenderness
Caring
Forgiving spirit
Validation
Empathetic
This is what I believe are negative drains on a relationship
Criticism (attacking partner's actions)
Contempt (condescending or belittling partner)
Defending your option
Emotional or verbal withdrawal
Isolation
Seeking too much control or power
Disapproval of mate's uniqueness
Bad moods, sulking
Disgracing or degrading partner
Disinterest
Harshness
Neglecting joy or sadness
Vindictive attitude
Invalidation
Falsely interpreting motives or feelings
Cheers!
Jaime
--- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, Salil <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
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> Hey Suhail
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> You imply that gay men are generally uninterested or incapable of
long term relationships. This may be your experience, but please don't
generalise - because by doing so you are demotivating many on this
list. There are gay relationships being formed everyday - and I
personally know many which are long term.
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> For the most part (there will be exceptions) - young straight men,
given the opportunity, are as promiscuous as young gay men.
Conversely, older gay men, given the opportunity, are as desirous of
having a long term relationship or marriage as older straight men. It
is to the gay men's credit that they have these relationships in spite
of society rather than with its support and strictures as straight men do.
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> Cheers
> Salil
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> suhail khan <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
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> .........About how stable gay relationships are and how much do gays
believe in commitment and even if they do how much are they able to
keep that commitment, I dont think I need to make statements on that,
every gay guy knows the scene of long-term-relationships among gays.
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