Yes, the reply was surprisingly touching and moving. It even brought back memories of when I was a gay man in my 20s running all over the place trying not to be left out of anything. ha ha (I always felt like I was missing out on everything, all the time)
No matter where we are in the world, we have to figure out how we're going to live our gay life. No matter what you try it is a VERY good idea to be cautious and ask a lot of questions, first. Peter --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, vikas khanna <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hey Vikram, > > I read that reply of yours - it was well written. It > is not just the choice of words that style of writting > that impresses but the thought between the words and > lines. You really are a good writer and are expressing > the feelings of most of us. > > Keep up the good work. > > Regards and best wishes, > Viki > --- Vikram <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, "warmwithhot" > > <warmwithhot@> > > wrote: > > > > > > i m very discreet guy ............ i read lot > > about the parties and > > > gay night .....i also read about the picnic....but > > never got > > courage > > > to attend any..... i work for a well known firm, > > there r fews guys > > who > > > r known to be gay and my colleagues really treat > > them with > > > indifference. > > > as in not abuse but people only talk to them work > > related > > > matters...they avoid mixing arround with > > them.......... i m also > > > adviced to stay far from them.... well thats > > apart..... > > > i just wanted to know wether these parties are > > legal or no??? > > > are there chances of police raids........ > > > i would also like to know the people experiences > > in the parties > > good > > > and bad both..... > > > > Hi, > > > > I'm replying as one of the organisers of GB events. > > There's nothing > > illegal about the parties. We don't allow drugs or > > sex on the > > premises or underage people to attend - and we're > > not just saying > > that, we do our best to enforce the rules. Its all > > withing the rules, > > you land up, pay your money to the club, get your > > drinks, dance, and > > strictly at 1.30 we wind up. > > > > So there's no reason for the police to harass us. > > Also, please note > > that we've been doing these parties for several > > years now and so far, > > touch wood, we've not had police problems. And we > > aren't particularly > > secret about the parties - we don't go out of our > > way to publicise > > them and we do request journalists not to write > > about them. But the > > info is on our website and on the lists and a few > > stories have > > appeared. So rest assured that the police knows > > these parties exist > > and so far have not done anything about them. > > > > Does that mean they never will? No, it could happen > > at any time. > > Perhaps the police might be looking to make money, > > perhaps there's > > some moralistic guy who wants to get some fame for > > himself, perhaps > > they may just be bored and looking for some action, > > but they could > > come anytime. They could come and harass any party, > > gay or straight, > > and of course since homosexuality is still penalised > > in India, the > > consequences could be worse for us. They may not be > > able to make any > > charges stick, but they could make things tough for > > you if you're > > deep in the closet. > > > > So that's the scenario. No problems so far. No > > reason there should be > > problems. But no saying there will never be. Now > > that I've clarified > > that, let me ask you a question. You asked whether > > you could risk > > coming to a party. Let me ask you: can you risk not > > coming? > > > > No, I am not saying that everyone has to come to > > parties, that its an > > imperative part of being gay in India. Lots of gay > > guys comfortably > > lead their lives without ever coming to a party. I > > don't even find > > them that interesting myself, perhaps because as an > > organiser I've > > been to too many. There are lots of other ways to > > lead your life as a > > gay man, other ways to interact with other gay > > friends. But it > > doesn't sound from your mail that you're > > experiencing any of them. > > > > So let coming to parties stand for getting in touch > > with other gay > > people, and your own gay self, and now ask yourself. > > You think you're > > safe at the moment, but in fact you're not. You're > > at risk from > > loneliness, from not connecting with other gay men > > like you, from > > waking up one day and finding most of your life has > > passed and you > > have not found love in the way that means something > > for you. > > > > Or perhaps you'll try and find it the way closeted > > men do, by > > cruising, by trying through Internet sites, perhaps > > by hiring > > hookers. There is nothing wrong with any of these, > > but they are not > > that easy and they carry significant risks > > themselves. Just ask all > > the guys who have gone disillusioned and bitter > > trying to find love > > on the Net or the guys who have got beaten up by > > hookers. > > > > The events organised by GB and other queer groups > > are not a solution > > to all your problems. But they are an attempt to > > create relatively > > safe spaces for gay men to meet other gay men like > > them and in doing > > so create a community. GB has been doing this for > > many years now and > > we have a community that is certainly benefitting > > people. So let me > > ask you again: can you afford not to get in touch? > > > > Vikram > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Park yourself in front of a world of choices in alternative vehicles. Visit the Yahoo! Auto Green Center. > http://autos.yahoo.com/green_center/ >
