Sweet and sour mother-in-law Usually most maligned, accused as trigger
The daughter in law is the culprit, most figure, The antagonism between two starts with her entry, Mother- in- law , blamed for acting as the sentry. Living in the in laws house adds to the fuel, Son is referee between wife and mother duel. Daughter living with parents, cause of dissent, Parents offer daughter their rightful consent’ Mother fears the loss of control on son Daughter- in -law, brooks interference from none A separate home. Identity from start is her quest Families must support it, as option best Treat her as own daughter, not a stranger. Trust her as member, not risk or danger Sacrificed her home, parents, career, even her surname It is not a game to seek nor position and fame. Dominant role in new home causes strain Exploiting age and helplessness leads to pain, Experience and wisdom of in laws can share , Adjustment to new persons and place do care Daughter in law always desires her own plan Support, understanding crucial from her man, Joint family provides a lot of needed support, Only when daughter in-law builds rapport Daughter in law tortured, harassed for dowry, Birth of female child, is a serious worry, Many killed or forced to commit suicide Who will in favour of daughter- in -law decide . Working daughter -In -law is wise to be kind, Realizes, love ,respect is then easy to find. Husband is the happiest one, never does mind, Easy to handle routine and daily grind In laws are both an advantage and liability. The good relationship a reality of unlimited facility, Adjustment to each other makes for happy life Husband is not torn between mother and wife. Mother and daughter in law seek attention, love to share, Accusation. of deserting parents beware, Accepting reality of this relationship is a boon Mother and daughter in law must realize it soon. It is an irony, that son –in- law ,treated over and above. Adored, welcomed ,attended, cared , recipient of boundless love, A hero in the family, showered , honour and praise A prominent celebrity, whose toast they proudly raise Nelson Lopes Chinchinim