Nelson this really made me laugh. My 2 d/ls would be the luckiest on earth. I’m sure they know it too. I never interfere in their lives. When I visit them, I respect that the homes are theirs and I have no right to criticise or control them. Mutual respect and love for my sons is paramount. Their happiness should never be compromised.
Regards Bernice Sent from my iPhone > On 03-Oct-2019, at 11:10 AM, Nelson Lopes <nellope...@gmail.com> wrote: > > Sweet and sour mother-in-law > > Usually most maligned, accused as trigger > > The daughter in law is the culprit, most figure, > > The antagonism between two starts with her entry, > > Mother- in- law , blamed for acting as the sentry. > > > > Living in the in laws house adds to the fuel, > > Son is referee between wife and mother duel. > > Daughter living with parents, cause of dissent, > > Parents offer daughter their rightful consent’ > > > > Mother fears the loss of control on son > > Daughter- in -law, brooks interference from none > > A separate home. Identity from start is her quest > > Families must support it, as option best > > > > Treat her as own daughter, not a stranger. > > Trust her as member, not risk or danger > > Sacrificed her home, parents, career, even her surname > > It is not a game to seek nor position and fame. > > > > Dominant role in new home causes strain > > Exploiting age and helplessness leads to pain, > > Experience and wisdom of in laws can share > > , Adjustment to new persons and place do care > > > > Daughter in law always desires her own plan > > Support, understanding crucial from her man, > > Joint family provides a lot of needed support, > > Only when daughter in-law builds rapport > > > > Daughter in law tortured, harassed for dowry, > > Birth of female child, is a serious worry, > > Many killed or forced to commit suicide > > Who will in favour of daughter- in -law decide > > > > . > > Working daughter -In -law is wise to be kind, > > Realizes, love ,respect is then easy to find. > > Husband is the happiest one, never does mind, > > Easy to handle routine and daily grind > > > > In laws are both an advantage and liability. > > The good relationship a reality of unlimited facility, > > Adjustment to each other makes for happy life > > Husband is not torn between mother and wife. > > > > Mother and daughter in law seek attention, love to share, > > Accusation. of deserting parents beware, > > Accepting reality of this relationship is a boon > > Mother and daughter in law must realize it soon. > > > > It is an irony, that son –in- law ,treated over and above. > > Adored, welcomed ,attended, cared , recipient of boundless love, > > A hero in the family, showered , honour and praise > > A prominent celebrity, whose toast they proudly raise > > > > Nelson Lopes > > Chinchinim