--- "Vivian A. DSouza" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: At least this has been my > experience in two cases where young Goan men from > abroad were looking for a bride in India. -----------------------------------
Frankly, I'm always surprised when men who have been raised in the West want a bride from "back home". What is the logic behind this? Marriage is surely meant to bind two people who have the same points of reference. This attitude of wanting to marry "girls from back home", is so regressive and patronising to "girls back home". It somehow puts them on a pedestal of expectations such as "domestic diva, faithful, demur, will treat son like the God he is supposed to be", and in large measure manages to dehumanise them as individuals. The funny thing is when the girls come to America, they are supposed to "American" on the outside and a bad caricature of black and white Hindi movie heroines on the inside; dichotomy many of them are unable to sustain. selma ____________________________________________________________________________________ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping