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\o/ \o/~~~~~~~~(((( Hidup oleh Roh, Dipimpin oleh Roh, Gal.5:25 ))))~~~~~~~\o/ \o/ From: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Marriage in general and interracial marriage in particular Mr. and Mrs. William Grant Still<1. make some very interesting observations about interracial marriage. âIf a marriage succeeds, it succeeds not because of racial considerations or in spite of them, but because two individuals are suited to each other. If it fails, it fails because of something in the characters of the two people who married, not because of their ancestry.â That is why www.Eharmony.org and others like it are so successful. They do their best to match people suited to each other, to match peopleâs characters. The Bible says that where there is no vision the people perish. It is equally true that where there is no vision, a marriage fails. If the coupleâs vision/ dream/ goals/ objectives are not shared and mutually supported, they canât walk well together because they arenât in agreement. This is why our Father tells us to marry those who have the same vision of Him and from Him, so that we can live in unity, agreement and harmony. Being compatible in Jesus at least gives the Lord the opportunity to make the marriage into a vessel of honor to His glory if the two submit to Him, Love Him enough to obey Him and seek His will over their own. <1.Marriage Across the Color Line, Edited by C. M. Larsson, Johnson Publlishing Co, p.162 âOne doesnât marry oneâs in -laws, and one never marries a whole race of people. One just marries an individual, usually a person with whom one has common interests, common ideals. And if one really cares for the person he intends to marry, racial considerations never enter his mind. He thinks only of that person.â<2. This is probably much more true of the female than of the male since the womanâs most basic needs in marriage are 1. Affection [1 Cor 7:3,4; Song of Solomon 1], 2. Conversation [Ge 21:12; Eph 5:19], 3. Honesty and openness [Eph 4:25], 4. Financial support [1Tm 5:8], and 5. Commitment to family [Ge 2:24] <3. None of these needs depend on what she sees or how the male visibly and physically appears to the woman. These needs do depend to a large degree on common interests and ideals, and women usually tend to be more aware of and sensitive to interests and ideals than men. <2. Marriage Across the Color Line, Edited by C. M. Larsson, Johnson Publlishing Co, p.162 <3. His Needs Her Needs, W.F. Harley, Jr.; Fleming H. Revell p. 13 On the other hand, the males most basic needs are 1. Sexual fulfillment [1Cor7:1,2,5; Prov 5:18,19], 2. Recreational companionship [Song of Solomon 2:10-13 ], 3. An attractive spouse [Song 1:15; 4:1; 6:4], 4. Domestic support [Titus2:5], and 5. Adoration/respect [Ephes 5:33].<4. Depending on the amount of testosterone in his blood, his need for sexual fulfillment drives a man to a woman because he NEEDS what she has, is and provides. The more testosterone in his blood, the greater his awareness of his NEED of a woman, the more thought he puts on a woman, the more creative he may get to have a woman, ---- and if he lets her into his heart --- the more deeply, irrationally and emotionally bonded he will be with the woman. Often the woman is seen and desired by the highly testosteroned male primarily because of her appearance, with little thought of her interests or ideals. If a man lets Jesus tame his sexual drives and focus them on a godly woman who is committed as much to fulfilling his sexual needs as she is to her own bodyâs needs, on a daily basis, they are on the path to realizing the marital ecstasy of Prov 5:18,19 and Song of Solomon. <4. His Needs Her Needs, W.F. Harley, Jr.;
Fleming H. Revell p. 12
o)----------------------[ Hapus dan Edit Pesan yang tidak perlu ]----------------------(oSo many wives lose their marriages, often to other women or pornography, because they fail to realize their husbandsâ sexual needs, they fail to obey the commands in 1 Cor 7:2,3,4,5, creatively and wisely presenting themselves to their husbands for them to obey Prov 5:18,19,20. They get married but then after a while make their men feel unwelcome or ungodly because of their frequent sexual desire of them. It never ceases to amaze me that a godly woman would not hesitate to feed her husband if he were hungry, clothe him if he was cold, visit him if he were sick or in prison (Mat 25:30-46), meeting his physical needs willingly and readily, but when it comes to the manâs physical appetite/need of sex, often the Christian wife will reluctantly minister to him sexually, often making him think he is carnal or ungodly because of his sexual need and desire of her. So the âgodlyâ wife changes and cools sexually because she thinks that sex in general and marital sex in particular is fleshly, carnal and ungodly and so should be minimized. She would rarely think of minimally meeting her husbandâs need of food if he were hungry, of drink if he were thirsty, of clothing if he were cold, or of visiting him if he were sick or in prison, but she often has no problem ignoring or disregarding his sexual needs, which God commands to be fulfilled in and by her. So she makes her husband feel unwelcome sexually, and his sexual drives, being irrational, keep on pushing him to find fulfillment, and often push him into the arms of another woman ready to meet his sexual needs, or into pornographic fantasies with women more friendly and welcoming than her. It is so sad that pastors donât teach godly women the commands of the Bible that could save their marriages, that the wife has sexual authority over her husbandâs body (1Cor 7:4), that she is commanded to use her sexual authority over his body and intimately have him whether or not he is inclined (1 Cor 7:2,4), actively presenting her body to him to give him the ministry, the ministry of delivering him from sexual sin (1Cor 7:1,2), that is due him as her husband (1Cor7:3,5; Prov 5:18,19). Well time is up. Got to finish this another day. Peace Tyler If you are not a member of one of my groups and you wish to repond to me, please do so directly to one of my email addresses. Because of my job and my other responsibilities I am no longer able to daily keep up with all the groups of which I am a member and to which I post. The Most High God loved the people of the world so very much that He sent and gave His only Son born of a woman, God with us, to be our Passover Lamb to cover our sins if we sincerely and genuinely call and depend on King Jesus of Bethlehem ALONE to save us from our sins and present us covered with His perfect righteousness to Abba Father in Heaven. Surfing yo Surfing ke RDSB.org ! webnya barusan di renov ! berkatnya makin komplit aja ! Daftar Member di RDSB.org heratis ! buat akses webmail, forum, MIDI dan masih banyak lahi ! Jangan lupa mampir juga ke http://tokobuku.rdsb.org, koleksinya langka, mutu dan manteb ! o)---------------------------( Milis ini didukung oleh I-KAN )--------------------------(o http://rdsb.org ; http://beritasorgawi.com ; http://ob.or.id Berhenti dari Milis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Langganan Milis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Administrasi & Teknis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] petunjuk nomail,mail,digest,gantiemail : [EMAIL PROTECTED] |
