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\o/ \o/~~~~~~~~(((( Hidup oleh Roh, Dipimpin oleh Roh, Gal.5:25 ))))~~~~~~~\o/ \o/ From: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> An Open Letter to any Christian Wife or Fianceà Who
Thinks Its Okay to Talk
Down To Her Own Man, To Talk Disrespectfully To and/or About Him, To Belittle Him, Criticize Him or Talk About Him As If He Were Inferior to You. Copyright  4/13/â04 This is for unedited and unchanged distribution on the net and www. by R. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763; [EMAIL PROTECTED]; [EMAIL PROTECTED] PART ONE OF TWO Dearly Beloved Daughter, <:-( [<:-(] [:-( My heart aches for you. I fear that you are headed for so much grief, hardship and sorrow if things donât change. Yes you are both under great stress now, but you both have chosen to put yourselves under that stress. I know you know that stress is not a permit to be unkind, impatient and ungodly. Now that your husband knows that it is wrong, even sinful, for you, his wife, to talk disrespectfully to her husband, I donât believe that your husband will endure your talking down to him, talking to and about him as if he were inferior, criticizing or belittling him -- especially in the presence of others. Isnât it possible that he is escaping into the TV from the way you talk to him? A man needs the respect God commands the wife to show to her husband. It breaks a manâs heart to be disrespected by the woman he loves, and whose love and respect he yearns for. If a wife refuses to give her husband the commanded respect, at least his love and passion for her will diminish, and he may be driven into the arms of a woman who will respect him, meeting his need for respect and for feeling loved and wanted. I know that you Love Jesus and want to obey Him, knowing that obeying Him is Loving Him. ***Jn 14:15  If ye love me, keep my commandments. . . . 21 He that has my commandments and keeps them, he it is that loves me; but he that loves me shall be loved by my Father, and I will love him and will manifest myself to him. You know that such obedient Love is the birthmark of the true child of God. ***1 Jn 2:3*  And by this we may know that we know Him--if we continuously keep on regularly obeying His commands. 4 He who professes to know Him, and yet does not continuously keep on regularly obeying His commands, is a liar, and the truth has no place in his heart. 5 But whoever continuously keep on regularly obeying His Message, in him love for God has in very deed reached perfection. By this we can know that we are in Him. WEY '?' ~?~ ^?^ I know you think you can handle anything, but why go out of your way to make your life and the lives of your loved ones less than it could be? The first commandment is that we Love each other. Specifically that means that the highest priority is for each of us, including you, is to Love each other even if the other doesn't return that Love. ***Jn 13: 34 A new commandment I give to you, that ye Love one another; as I have Loved you, that ye also Love one another. 35 By this shall all know that ye are disciples of mine, if ye have Love amongst yourselves. =:-| <:-| Out of Love for Jesus you have to focus on your part in the marriage, as a disciple of King Jesus and trusting Him to work and will His great Love in you, which is to be patient with Nick, kind to Nick, envy-free, jealousy-free, advancing his interests, assertive for his needs, seeking his benefit, boastful of the good in him, humbly recognizing and accepting his and your own limitations (1 Cor 13). You have to focus on your part, which is to behave well, to be angry at evil but patient with Nick's weakness, forgiving wrongs done to you by Nick as Christ called for the forgiveness of those crucifying Him, rejoicing in truth and merciful justice together, standing up and speaking out for merciful justice and truth in your relationship and in the relationships around you, taking the chance/risk of trusting Jesus with all areas of your life, and hoping for the best with patient endurance (1 Cor 13). =:-| <:-| Got to have your priorities straight as well. First of all you've been called to be daughter and servant of the Most High God, to seek His Kingdom and His righteousness first and foremost in your life (Mat 6:33,34). Secondly you have chosen to be and been called to be a godly mother and wife, one who "fondly likes and in a friendly manner regularly, affectionately and kindly welcomes" (phileo + philoteknos) both her children and husband. ***Titus 2: 4 They should school the young women to be affectionate (phileo + philoteknos) to their husbands and to their children, to be sober-minded, pure in their lives, We know that single women are exempt from much of the curse that came on all women due to Eve's transgression, being free from pregnancy, birthing pains, desiring a man, the distractions of married life, and the God ordained rule of the husband over the wife. ***Ge 3:16*  To the woman he said, I will greatly increase thy travail and thy pregnancy; with pain thou shalt bear children; and to thy husband shall be thy desire, and he shall rule over thee. ***1 Cor 7:34 There is a difference between the wife and the virgin. The unmarried cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but she that has married cares for the things of the world, how she shall please her husband. We know that single women in Christ are free from all of God's instructions to wives. They are free to speak and ask questions in the assembly, to teach and have authority over men in the assembly. *** 1Cor 14:34*  Let your wives be silent in the assemblies, for it is not permitted to them to speak; but to be in subjection, as the law also says. 35 But if they wish to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is a shame for a wives to speak in assembly. ***1Tim2: 11 A wife should quietly learn from others with entire submissiveness. 12* I do not permit a wife to teach, nor have authority over a husband, but she must remain silent. 13 For Adam was formed first, and then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but his wife was thoroughly deceived, and so became involved in transgression. =:-| <:-| The preceding passages show that it is a different situation for women once they become wives because of the curse Eve's sin brought on wives (Ge 3:16) and because of the order of creation (1Cor 11:1-12). Personally I believe another reason for difference in the Lord's instructions to wives is an extension of Ge 3:16, where the wife is called to submit herself to her husband as a spiritual discipline to help keep her from pride and boasting (2 Cor 12:7-10). The psychs and shrinks have learned that women's brains are far more developed than men's for handling relationships and emotions. This superiority greatly enables the woman to be an excellent mother, to handle her emotions better and to handle well the complexity of intense and emotional relationships that one experiences when one is called upon to be both a mother and a wife at the same time. So when a woman chooses to become a wife, she voluntarily gives up her freedom to speak and ask questions in the general assembly of the saints, her freedom to teach and have authority over men in the assembly. Becoming a wife she has chosen to not be a speaker or a questioner in the general assembly, to not teach husbands in the general assembly, to not have and exercise authority over husbands in the general assembly. *** 1Cor 14:34*  Let your wives be silent in the assemblies, for it is not permitted to them to speak; but to be in subjection, as the law also says. 35 But if they wish to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is a shame for a wives to speak in assembly. ***1Tim2: 11 A wife should quietly learn from others with entire submissiveness. 12* I do not permit a wife to teach, nor have authority over a husband, but she must remain silent. 13 For Adam was formed first, and then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but his wife was thoroughly deceived, and so became involved in transgression. =:-| <:-| Please note that a husband has absolutely no authorization from God to make his wife submit herself to him. None of us are to be masters over other believers, ones who exercise authority over other believers, and/or ones who subdue and master other believers. ***Luke 22: 25 But He said to them, âThe kings of the Gentiles are their masters, and those who exercise authority over them are called Benefactors. 26* With you it is not so [there being no king or master over you but God, no one exercising authority over you but God]; but the greatest among you should be as the younger, and the leader should be like him who serves. 27 For which is the greater--he who sits at table, or he who waits on him? Is it not he who sits at table? But my position among you is that of one who waits on others. ***1 Peter 5: 1  I exhort the elders who are among you, I being also an elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, and also a partaker of the glory that shall be revealed. 2 Feed the flock of God among you, taking the oversight, not by compulsion, but willingly; nor for base gain, but readily; 3 NOR AS SUBDUING AND MASTERING THOSE ALLOTTED to you by God, but becoming examples to the flock. =:-| <:-| Please note that it is the wife who is called upon to submit her own self to her husband's leadership in everything. ***Ephes 5:20 Always and for everything let your thanks to God the Father be presented in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21  and submitting yourselves to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Married women, submit yourselves to your own husbands as if to the Lord; 23 because a husband is the Head of his wife as Christ also is the Head of the Church, being indeed the Saviour of this His Body. 24 And just as the Church submits to Christ, so also married women should be entirely submissive to their husbands. >>>Strong's 5293 hupotasso; v 1) to arrange one's self under, to subordinate one's self 2) to subject one's self, put in subjection one's self 3) to subject one's self, obey 4) to submit one's self to one's control 5) to yield one's self to another's admonition or advice 6) to obey, be subject ++++In non-military use, it was "a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden". >>>Strong's 3956 pas {pas}; adj; all things, everything This is the Lord's Word through Paul several times as well as through Peter. Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Tit 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 1Pe 3:1* Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; . . . 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: But the King's Word goes beyond just submitting one's self to her husband. She is instructed to treat her husband with respect. ***Ephes 5:33* Yet I insist that among you also, each man is to love his own wife as much as he loves himself, and let a married woman see to it that she treats her husband with respect. WEY ***Eph 5:33* However, for you individually, let each love his wife as if she were himself; and the wife be careful to respect her husband.TCNT '?' ~?~ ^?^ How does this "respect" go beyond the honor, respect, reverence, veneration and deference we are to have for our rulers and our parents? >>>Strongâs phobeo; v: to fear (i.e. hesitate -weighing the consequences-) to do something (for fear of harm); to reverence, venerate, to treat with deference or reverential obedience =:-| <:-| Obviously this kind of respect goes far beyond the honor and respect we are accustomed to have and show to our rulers and parents in our present society. Why should a wife fearfully weigh the consequences of the way she relates to her husband? What harm should she fear, that would motivate her to reverence, venerate and treat her husband with deference and reverential obedience? Why is she commanded to have this same circumspect and aware-of-consequences "phobeo" reverential fear for her husband that she is commanded to have for her God? Mt 10:28 And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell. Ac 10:22 And they said, Cornelius the centurion, a just man, and one that feareth God, and of good report among all the nation
of the Jews, was warned from God by an holy angel to send for thee into his
house, and to hear words of thee.
Ac 13:26 Men and brethren, children of the stock of Abraham, and whosoever among you feareth God, to you is the word of this salvation sent. Ro 11:20 Well; because of unbelief they were broken off, and thou standest by faith. Be not highminded, but fear : 21 For if God spared not the
o)----------------------[ Hapus dan Edit Pesan yang tidak perlu ]----------------------(onatural branches, take heed lest he also spare not thee. '?' ~?~ ^?^ What if the husband is backslidden, carnal and behaves in an unLoving manner? We know that God sets outstanding, valiant and wise rulers over His children. Yet we know David's weakness with Bathsheba and with his children. We know Solomon's weakness in having too many wives and marrying unbelievers. We know that Jesus will purposefully put ungodly and evil rulers over peoples and nations. ***Da 4:17 This sentence is by the decree of the watchers, and the decision by the word of the holy ones: that the living may know that the Most High ruleth over the kingdom of men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will, and setteth up over it the basest of men. END OF PART ONE OF TWO http://www.groups.aol.com/biblicalmarital (Biblical Marriage&Divorce) http://groups.msn.com/BiblicalMarriageDivorceRemarriage http://smartgroups.com/groups/marriagedivorceremarriage http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MarriageDivorceRemarriageJesus http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LynnRecovery If you are not a member of one of my groups and you wish to repond to me, please do so directly to one of my email addresses. Because of my job and my other responsibilities I am no longer able to daily keep up with all the groups of which I am a member and to which I post. The Most High God loved the people of the world so very much that He sent and gave His only Son born of a woman, God with us, to be our Passover Lamb to cover our sins if we sincerely and genuinely call and depend on King Jesus of Bethlehem ALONE to save us from our sins and present us covered with His perfect righteousness to Abba Father in Heaven. Surfing yo Surfing ke RDSB.org ! webnya barusan di renov ! berkatnya makin komplit aja ! Daftar Member di RDSB.org heratis ! buat akses webmail, forum, MIDI dan masih banyak lahi ! Jangan lupa mampir juga ke http://tokobuku.rdsb.org, koleksinya langka, mutu dan manteb ! o)---------------------------( Milis ini didukung oleh I-KAN )--------------------------(o http://rdsb.org ; http://beritasorgawi.com ; http://ob.or.id ; http://revival.or.id Berhenti dari Milis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Langganan Milis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Administrasi & Teknis : [EMAIL PROTECTED] petunjuk nomail,mail,digest,gantiemail : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Untuk info lebih lanjut kunjungi web kami di http://revival.or.id |
