It's a shame we can't all get together and trouble shoot . With all of our "expert" opinions, we'd have you fixed in a few minutes.
Since we are all spread over several countries, I'm thinking you and the boys would benefit from finding someone really good to help you at your place. I have been riding since 1963, but I've already arranged to take a few lessons before Tosca comes home from the trainer's. I want the benefit for both of us of consistancy. Maybe someone else will have some suggestions about the best way to find a good instructor. Nancy