Our reply to sahira in the forum of www.islam.com is below: CC.
/// Ýstanbul, 2005-02-23 get marry with a muslim partner only because he/she is (islamically) religious. dear sahira, assalamu alaikum, age difference is no matter in islam. if the age difference would be around 25 years; i would kindly advise you to think (a little bit, not more) before marriage. however, your age difference is 17 years. this shouldn't be problem among you. your parents, friends, family and all of your environment (and of course you) should first of all take into considiration the islamic counciousness of the future partner. Actually, the partner who is intended to get married should know islam (very well or more than you) and should live islam as well. you should prefer such a person. our prophet says one of his holy words that all marriages are done according to the below reasons: "people get marry with a girl/woman because of her following four features; 1-because she is beatiful. 2-because she is rich. 3-because she is from a noble family. 4-because she is (islamically) religious." our prophet muhammad peace be upon him advises us to choose the girl who has the fourth feature of the above ones. this doesn't mean that you shouldn’t take into considiration other three features. imam gazzali (died at the year of 1111) rahimehullah indicates that if a girl has the four of above features together, of course, it is better to choose her. the above four features are valid not only for muslim girls but also for muslim boys as well for marriage. this means, muslim girls should also try to find the muslim partner who has firstly the above fourth feature. let me please explain the above hadees of our prophet a little bit more (not especially for dear muslim sahira, but also for all of you as dear muslim ladies and gentlemen all over the world): suppose there are four muslim partners with whom you intend to get married. -first muslim partner is handsome/beatiful; but he/she is not so (islamically) religious. -second muslim partner is rich; but he/she is not so (islamically) religious. -third muslim partner is from a noble family; but he/she is not so (islamically) religious. -forth muslim partner is (islamically) religious; but he/she is not so handsome/beatiful, he/she is not so rich and he/she is from a normal family. If you want to be happy both here in this world and in the hereafter you should prefer the fourth muslim partner. If you choose the fourth partner, Allah subhanahu wa taala may give both to you and to your partner the other three features before you die. However, if you do not take into considiration the religiousness of the partner and if you prefer one (or three) of the above three features only, both of you may become, one day, ugly, poor and from a normal family. May Allah subhanahu taala help all of us (being as muslims all over the world) to get married with those partners who are really living Islam as much as they do. Fi amanillah. (may Allah protect all of us.) Wassalamu alaikum. Cemil Celepci [EMAIL PROTECTED] Ýstanbul Turkey /// sahira’s question in the forum of www.islam.com is below: CC. /// plz reply Posted by sahira786 on Wednesday, February 23, 2005 Comment: salam, i wanna marry this man who is 17 yrs older than me i am 20 and he is 37, my friends and all dont think its bad or nething cuz they know how much we love each other, but my parents and family is having a hard time understanding, do u think its really bad? its not like i am only thinking about the present, i have thought about my future too, i know he is still young enough to raise children with me, i just wanna have a small family newayz, and inshAllah he will be their in hard times, i mean now he may seem old for me, but like when i am 32 and he is 49 it doesnt sound bad, i am willing to live my life with him, i pray namaz and sabak all the time, i thank Allah for wot i have and hope for this to happen as well, now i just wanna know wot some ppl i dont know think about this, so plz do reply, thanks for readin, Allah hafiz!!! __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? 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