> Perfection never was a turn on. Discuss? > the only time I ever went with a 'beuiful' person, he was o boring. He just layed there. My dear friend Joudy who i still now 22 years later, said that beautiful people are so used to being adored they don't bother.
Most of the people I feel attracted too are not usally conventionally good looking. I once had a terrible crush on a man I used to see regularly at a meeting. I broke my foot and was on crutches. he gave me a lift home and because i had to go up a couple of flights he carried me!(I was 19 and slim at the time) I was so embarrassed and thrilled at the same time. he was short, fat with a big gut, bald on top and a heavy Irish accent. But his eyes and smile just made my stomach flip and my legs feel like jelly. I would blush whenever he spoke to me. To me it is in the eyes and smile. Yes, I find good bodies attractive but that is just lust. It dooesn't last. I am now 43 almost, fat and john is 54 and hardly the body beautiful. It is as well it is love that keeps us together and not lust.Nothing, but nothing, beats making love with someone you love and know so well. The feeling is very hard to explain but nothing else has ever got me there except for a few times when i have had a spiritual experience in other circumstances(meditation, healing group,being in the mountains of New England). It is like we merge, our spirits blend, pure, leaving the bull behind. Sort of like how I think dying must be. Like a line from a Carly song-'I wish you were an ocean so i can jump to you'. At that time it happens.
