Bob <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote to colin: > And for the record, I think you're great. On-list > and off-list, you've often said things that have > made my day, and I am grateful for that.
Same here, colin. I would really miss you if you left. I always read your posts, hoping for another of your gems of wisdom. Colin, in my opinion, you are one of the most sane people on the list. It is very terrible that you were personally attacked, especially with words referring to information that you have shared about your life. This is very wrong and should not be tolerated. I don't have the time to post a lot or to read everything that everyone writes. I feel sorry about that, but it can't be helped in my busy life. I'm sorry I didn't observe that someone had attacked you. As I have said before, I dislike getting into disagreements/arguments, try to avoid them, and so I don't read things in the list that seem at a quick glance to be confrontational or argumentative. I have said this before, and will say it again, it seems to me that sometimes arguments here get started over what seem to me to be very benign statements. Certain words which are perfectly neutral to one person can cause a violent reaction in another. We all need to be careful how we say things and also to analyze our reactions to the things other people say. If we have a negative reaction to something, we should exercise some restraint before posting an angry reply and also try not to assume the worst possible interpretation - ask questions - "It sounded to me like you were saying ....... when you said ...... - is that what you meant?" - take responsibility for your own reaction - "when you said .......- I felt ......" - rather than name-calling. Marian Vienna NP: Chief - Patty Griffin - 1000 Kisses
