Clay, Something I've learned from years on lists is that if I write something and I get a sharp reply back from someone I have three choices (actually this works in life too):
1) I can stamp my foot and moan and shout 2) I can tell the person invovled (by personal email - not to the list) that I didn't like the way they wrote to me and would expect them to check the tone of their reply in future 3) Ignore it and get on with my lace In life I take route two where possible because it normally invovles my clients' behaviour but on the lists - I simply take route 3 (unless it was really unacceptable then I would email them and copy to the moderator of the list). Recently I posted a reply to the list and the person who posted the original question emailed a reply to me and copied to the list simply telling me I was wrong and didn't know what I talking about. After the sharp intake of breath that followed I thought, well, I could email back and say look, I've spent 15 years researching this and have written two papers on the subject, and I do know what I'm talking about ... then I thought no, they didn't want to hear what I had said as it goes against what they wanted to do so I'll go talk to someone who wants to talk WITH me and spent the time I had available writing some notes on what I've learnt about my digital camera and taking photos of lace and my dad's soldiers. That was the right decision as shortly afterwards I got an email from a list member to whom that post really helped provide them info so they could weigh up buying a camera. I think that life is too short for all the lace I have to make so I simply can't waste time on those who want to be rude to me here because they don't bother to read what they wrote and see how sharp they have been. Clay Blackwell wrote: > Some time back, (it's been years now...) a friend of mine > took offense on a fairly regular basis to things one > particular member wrote. Her solution was to block email > from this member, and now she doesn't have to see it any > more! So rather than launch an attack on someone you > disagree with, perhaps you might simply block that person's > email. It's a far more civilized way to deal with the > problem. > > Clay -- Regards Liz B - To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
