Bev and Gang,
Had to throw my 2 cents worth in the ring here, I too having outgrown
that god-awful label, "adopted." I knew who my parents were, my dad
having committed suicide when I was 2 months shy of 5 years old.
My mom married again when I was 9, she tried for years to marry and
"officially" lose the married name of my father, she being afraid of
what
may come back to haunt her as dad was shall we say on the shady side
of the law and didn't want to be deported again. She was always open
with me about my 'missing' brothers and sisters and always said that if
anybody were to find them, it would have to be me as no-one else would.
Which I did, which, nearly 20 years ago was an almost impossible task.
Another scenario,
Many reasons,
different outcome,
Gene
----- Original Message -----
From: "Beverley Ellis" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, February 14, 2005 11:04 PM
Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] e: Keeping track of adopted names
> Being an adoptee myself (note - I am certainly not an "adopted child"! I
> grew out of that title many years ago!) this is a subject that interests
me
> greatly. I have spent many years researching for and counselling with
> people separated by adoption and where possible, facilitating a reunion.
>
> May I suggest that "our" couple had a child when unmarried, the child
raised
> as a foster child or in a home of some kind, until the couple finally were
> able to marry (were they too young to marry without parental permission?)
> when the 2nd baby was on the way and they were then able to bring home
> number 1 child and go on to raise their family, keeping their "secret" by
> telling a white lie about the marriage year. For the sake of privacy,
other
> family, friends, neighbours then told that they had "taken in" a homeless
> child!
>
> Just a theory!
>
> ((*-*)) Bev
> Adelaide, South Australia
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Paula Ryburn" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> To: <[email protected]>
> Sent: Tuesday, February 15, 2005 6:53 AM
> Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] e: Keeping track of adopted names
>
>
> > Gordon,
> > Did you verify the oldest child's birthdate by obtaining their birth
> > certificate? What names are listed as parents?
> >
> > Personally, I find it hard to believe that an unmarried couple would
> > together adopt a child (first part of story #2). At least in my
lifetime,
> > I'm not sure the courts would allow that...? However, depending on the
> > era,
> > it may well have been acceptable... but wouldn't that mean they were
> > living
> > together, and how often did that happen "back then"? Hmmm... I guess
it
> > could also depend on location, proximity to church/parson, etc...
> >
> > I would add all children as natural/biological until you can prove
> > otherwise. And the "stories" could be added to the Marriage in Notes or
> > Events, with the applicable relatives cited as sources.
> >
> > What a fascinating "mystery," though. The kind that keeps you
interested
> > in
> > continuing the research!
> > --Paula
> >
> >
> >
> > In one family I am researching there are six children. The parents
always
> > told everyone that they were married two years before their actual
> > marriage
> > date and everyone always thought all their children were their
biological
> > children. Well everyone in the immediate family thought that anyway. My
> > research uncovered anomalies in the birth dates of the children and the
> > marriage date of the parents. The first child was 2 years old when the
> > parents were married. The second child was born 7 months after they were
> > married. The birth dates of the children and the Marriage date have been
> > verified.
> >
> > I have confronted the only three living relatives that would have
> > knowledge
> > of what happened and have three different stories.
> >
> > 1. The first born was biological to the mother but not the father.
(Sister
> > of the mother)
> > 2. The first born was adopted by both parents. The second born was
> > biological to both parents. (Sister to the father)
> > 3. The first and second born were both adopted. (1st cousin to the
mother)
> >
> >
> >
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