Did you think about replying to him explaining the etiquette problem? Usually people
are pretty good with understanding things if you explain them.
A polite, "Please address this to the list and I will reply to you there. You are also
likely to get varied viewpoints from a wide range of people. That should allow you to
choose the path that best suits your needs."
In short, don't get bent.. just communicate.
<grins>
David V.
-----Original Message-----
From: Kerry Thompson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
Sent: Thursday, May 17, 2001 10:17 AM
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: <lingo-l> OT: Off-list contacts
Good morning all,
I'm curious as to how you handle unsolicited off-list requests.
I just got a request, off-list, from a newbie seeking a programming
solution. I won't mention this person's name, of course, but it was a name
I only vaguely recall seeing.
So I'm in a bit of a quandary. I'm normally happy to help, but I think
his/her approaching me off-list was a breach of etiquette.
I didn't want to flame the poor soul, so I simply played dumb--I replied
with my standard consulting rate list, an estimate, and a request for an
advance deposit. This is a student, though, and (I'm guessing here, based
on the name), from a less wealthy country, so I was really just politely
(more or less) turning away the request.
Have you folks run into this? How do you usually handle it? Am I too
tight-assed?
Cordially,
Kerry Thompson
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