How many times has it been that you've met a cool guy (or girl) and initiated camaraderie, only to become the 'friend'? Platonic friendships are great. However, is your comfort with the opposite sex ironically destroying your chances of getting hitched?
Here are ways to steer clear when you feel that your mission is near… Play Coy As sad as this may sound, playing a little coy is crucial to the game. Men are hypocrites, even the best of them. They might pretend that they are cool about strong women, but secretly they nurture images of demure, sweet women who, ahem, blink. So don't think, just blink. Initiate a Physicality Men might have double standards, but gone are the days when a man is expected to make the first move. Please remember that some Indian men can also be extremely shy, and therefore may not be so keen on making the first move. Take over, but at the same time, be subtle. Comments like 'your butt is looking nice in these jeans' or 'I like the stubble look' are good ways to remind him that he is not just a 'friend'. Night Cap There is nothing like a glass of wine to end an even headier evening. So feel free to go dancing with your pal but also make it clear that you like having him over for a little night cap, before you call it a night. Men are most vulnerable after a couple of drinks. At the same time, you don’t want him so sloshed that he won’t even remember what happened last night. Beware of the ‘blank out’ scam: it's an old trick men use to forget what, in your mind was a crucial evening… No Girl Talk, Ever Avoid any situation where you are screening girls for him. The last thing you want is him using you to get to meet more women, or decide on what is his type. At the same time, you don't want to be become an obsessive girlfriend (platonic of course). Be a friend Men like loyalty, despite the roving eye. So be a friend. Be there for him. In fact, a vulnerable time in his life could well be the best time to make a foothold, for you to take charge, and announce your love for him. However, how you do it is very crucial. Or else, you might compound his problems. Don’t go on a vacation, yet An out-of-town trip where only two of you end up going is a sure sign that nothing is going to happen between the two. A dangerously high comfort level has set in already. This means that you need to break the pattern urgently. Don’t accept an invitation for an out of town picnic unless he has naughty intentions. Get a buzz going There is nothing like a bunch of friends cajoling you guys to get together. So if your friends have the habit of teasing the two of you when together, don't discourage them. There is strength in numbers. Family ties There is nothing like family pressure for you to end any platonic pretence. Remember that families are obsessed with marriage. They’ll hate you as the platonic friend. But as a potential bahu, they might see you in a different light altogether. So if you befriend the family in the right manner, and get them to start pushing the marriage agenda, it’s a great way to get him in bed. And if he’s bad, you can be a complete b***h and break the engagement. The family was right about you, after all! Group Moderator for [EMAIL PROTECTED] [EMAIL PROTECTED] [EMAIL PROTECTED] Connect your World with Us join Now - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/dimpill_gang/join Affiliated group from dimpill_gang for Only Adult Mails - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/fantazies/join Affiliated group from dimpill_gang for Only Health and Food Mails - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Health_and_Gourmet/join Forgot the famous last words? Access your message archive online at http://in.messenger.yahoo.com/webmessengerpromo.php
