Masud,
Sorry for the delay in my response. I am responding to your question below
because I want to apologize to you and to the list (in case others did not
understand as well) for using a description that is obviously not universal.
"Baited response" refers to a situation where the person asking the question
is hoping (consciously or subconsciously) to get some sort of response/rise
out of the person whom which they are communicating.
My interpretation of your frustration with Therese's lack of respons (even
though it was only a day), is that you were anticipating some response from
her in the first place. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm sorry if this offended you
in some manner.
From my feedback I would hope that you would step back and re-think your
judgements and how you responded to this situation and learn something from
it. As someone else pointed out, it starts with you...
Best wishes,
Judy
----- Original Message -----
From: "Masud Sheikh" <mashe...@cogeco.ca>
To: <osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu>
Sent: Friday, April 22, 2005 5:47 PM
Subject: Re: Learning to expand our NOW
Hi Judy,
You correctly pointed out that I tend to be judgmental. But I did not
understand what you meant by "you were obviously waiting for a baited
response from her". To start off, I do not understand what is a "baited
response".
But Judy, my request was for help - and it was genuine. What would you
would like me to learn from your feedback?
Masud
<ejesp...@mydurango.net> wrote:
Okay, I have to pipe in a bit on this one...
Masud, I find it extremely ironic that the posting you made to Therese
implies that she was being judgmental and then in this post you instantly
jump to conclusions and "judge" her...hmmmm... IMHO you cannot factually
conclude that her lack of response was some sort of avoidance on the
issue. As Lisa has pointed out, there could be a zillion reasons why she
didn't respond within a day (hardly enough time to even make a
conclusion)...I think you read way too much into this as you were
obviously waiting for a baited response from her.
Just my 2 cents worth...
Judy Spady
----- Original Message -----
From: Masud Sheikh
To: osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu
Sent: Friday, April 22, 2005 9:28 AM
Subject: Learning to expand our NOW
Dear all,
In the interest of expanding my "NOW", I request a favour/favor (being
Canadian, I can use both spellings):
Yesterday, I had a conflict with Therese Fitzpatrick, when I posted the
following note:
">Funda, such an event would not be negative...it could be wonderful
and life affirming.
> And it could unleash new, positive initiatives in the world.
Please forgive me for reacting, Therese.
"Would not be negative....." - Is that not highly judgmental, Therese -
an opinion expressed as fact?
Masud"
Therese's lack of response makes it evident that my "NOW" did not
contain enough space for her to respond. For those of you who can have
space for my views, as well as hers, can you please suggest an alternative
way of posing my comment/question?
My best wishes
Masud
There is something called learning at a rather small level of
organisation. At a much higher gestalt level, learning is called
evolution - Gregory Bateson
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