Riddley-Matilda-Phelim, Congratulations! Riddley certainly is a blessing. Welcome Riddley who will continue to be renewing his parents & a lot more on this world.
He has expanded our Now!!!^^ Love spark 2012. 1. 20. 오전 9:49에 "Phelim McDermott" <phe...@mac.com>님이 작성: > Dear open space friends, > > Matilda and I have been a little absent from the list and just wanted to > check in with you all as to what's been happening and our extraordinary > start to the year. > > For the end of last year I had been working on an Opera at the Met in New > York. Matilda became pregnant in April and because of this work commitment > if we wanted to be together for the birth we had to have it in New York. > Because of the show timing was also an issue. Although we knew that > whenever it happened was the right time, we had also been talking to our > baby in the womb and encouraging it that if it could just hold off a little > while it would get to hear the opera and that if it came during rehearsals > it would probably miss the chance of hearing the baroque music that's > supposed to be so good for your baby in utero! On 31st, Dec 2011 The > Enchanted Island opened. Matilda was there on opening night and we were > greatly relieved that things were happening in the order we had hoped for. > > We then imagined we might even get a bit of a break for preparation before > anything else happened. However, two days later on the evening of the > Monday Matilda's first contractions began. (Whenever it starts is the right > time.) We met our Doula (birthing companion) briefly then went for a meal > at the Italian restaurant on the corner of 8th and C, (It's amazing how > quickly your food arrives if you tell them your wife's having > contractions). Then we went back to our East Village apartment and put up > the birthing pool we had hired, hoping that the midwife’s assurance that it > was like approximately 8 big men drinking beer in your kitchen was accurate > and it wasn't going to crash through the floor. Then we went to bed and > tried to get some sleep. Matilda being Matilda there wasn't much of that, > nor for the next four nights. > > Next morning We gathered around the empty birthing pool. This was our > circle. Increasing our numbers with some toy monkeys and an elephant who > had been given as a gift for the baby we opened the space for our birth. We > made An invitation for this new life to come into the world. The principles > were up on our apartment walls and we posted sessions that could happen at > any time. They included “Music and dancing”, “Wise Teachers”, “Love and > welcome”, “Filling the pool” etc.. > > Now if you go through the principles and think about it you’ll realise how > pertinent they are for a genuine birth. Especially when you are hundred > miles from home and dealing with all the things that come with setting up > for the holding of space for the entry of a new life into this world. > > Whenever it starts is the right time. > Whoever comes are the right people. > When it's over it's over. (and when not over it's not over of course!) > Whatever happens is the only thing that could have. Wherever it happens is > the right place. > > Law of two feet/mobility. > > Be prepared to be surprised! > > Amazed at how marginalised the midwifing community is in the USA compared > to Europe we had watched the great film “The business of being born” and > had been given a recommendation by our UK midwife of a midwife in the > States. We discovered it was not only the midwife in this film but that she > was living two streets away from us in the East village opposite a > restaurant called “Matilda”! > > During our pre birth work we had been doing a lot of studying, finding out > about midwifery and had been amazed by Michel Odent's and also Ina May > Gaskin's work. Lots of the literature could easily be interchangeable with > work on creativity/opening space. For example: Odent's advice that he > usually turns up at a birth and says: “Do you mind if I go take a nap in > the room down the corridor.” Also “the best place for an obstetricians > hands are in his pockets” etc.. All this work is about space.. space.. > opening space.. Holding space. Its about trusting in emergence, whilst > holding off on intervention. > > Over the next four days with the help of our amazing Midwife Cara and our > Doula Angelique we went on an extraordinary roller coaster of physical and > emotional experience. They were both fantastic at holding and creating a > safe space for us both and they allowed me to support Matilda in following > herself mentally and physically. > > It was an incredibly challenging birth because of what turned out to be > our little son's position against Matilda's back, so it was very long and > although it looked like we may have to go to hospital at the later stages, > our wonderful Midwife and Doula and their team of helpers who appeared in > various guises throughout the three days pulled us through and our home > birth happened as we had hoped. Others who helped were Pat an astonishing > acupuncturist who turned up on the Thursday night who just happened to be > nearby and gave Matilda "liquid hips”! and Miriam a midwife colleague of > Cara's who appeared because she had texted Cara to meet for a coffee just > when we needed support because it looked like the baby’s heart was slowing. > She walked through the door to see the babies head crowning. Truly whoever > comes are the right people! She then helped getting the baby out fast with > Cara to speed things up as his heart was slowing. We stood Matilda up and > the baby was born not in the pool but in front of our sofa. (Wherever it > happens is the right place.) > > As well as them, Matilda was of course amazing and inspiring. Doing it all > without painkillers and using only myself, a birthing pool, the open space > principles and repeated playings of "The Bare Necessities" to get her > through. > > At 8.47am on the 6th Jan 2012 the baby was born. Because of his difficult > route his head was squished into a rather dramatic lopsided horn, (“be > prepared to be surprised” and “whatever happens is the only thing that > could have”), which quickly disappeared. Riddley Wilbur McDermott (Whoever > comes are the right people.) is now doing very well. He is particularly > beautiful. > > Here's a photo of him: > > > http://clusterform.tumblr.com/post/16137649871/riddley-wilbur-mcdermott-libatique-73-lens-kodot > > Our birth has now happened. (when it's over it's over) But the space that > has opened where our baby boy now exists is astounding, scary, exhilarating > and profoundly humbling. We love him. > > For our new family it is of course just beginning... (When it's not over > it's not over.) > > > Lots of love > > Phelim X > > ________________________________ > > I generally pick up emails only at the beginning and end of the working > day. I am currently aiming to respond the following day. If it is urgent > please call me on 07956 187298. > _____________________________________ > > www.improbable.co.uk > @openspacer > @wosonos2012 > > > > > > > _______________________________________________ > OSList mailing list > To post send emails to OSList@lists.openspacetech.org > To unsubscribe send an email to oslist-le...@lists.openspacetech.org > To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > >
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