Well, Riddley Wilbur is a gorgeous 'outcome'. Would that it were possible to capture that state of bliss in your picture of him and dispense by the spoonful.
I am looking forward to seeing your new production at the Barbican in Feb. Kind regards Amanda On 20 Jan 2012, at 00:34, Phelim McDermott wrote: > Dear open space friends, > > Matilda and I have been a little absent from the list and just wanted to > check in with you all as to what's been happening and our extraordinary start > to the year. > > For the end of last year I had been working on an Opera at the Met in New > York. Matilda became pregnant in April and because of this work commitment if > we wanted to be together for the birth we had to have it in New York. Because > of the show timing was also an issue. Although we knew that whenever it > happened was the right time, we had also been talking to our baby in the womb > and encouraging it that if it could just hold off a little while it would get > to hear the opera and that if it came during rehearsals it would probably > miss the chance of hearing the baroque music that's supposed to be so good > for your baby in utero! On 31st, Dec 2011 The Enchanted Island opened. > Matilda was there on opening night and we were greatly relieved that things > were happening in the order we had hoped for. > > We then imagined we might even get a bit of a break for preparation before > anything else happened. However, two days later on the evening of the Monday > Matilda's first contractions began. (Whenever it starts is the right time.) > We met our Doula (birthing companion) briefly then went for a meal at the > Italian restaurant on the corner of 8th and C, (It's amazing how quickly your > food arrives if you tell them your wife's having contractions). Then we went > back to our East Village apartment and put up the birthing pool we had hired, > hoping that the midwife’s assurance that it was like approximately 8 big men > drinking beer in your kitchen was accurate and it wasn't going to crash > through the floor. Then we went to bed and tried to get some sleep. Matilda > being Matilda there wasn't much of that, nor for the next four nights. > > Next morning We gathered around the empty birthing pool. This was our circle. > Increasing our numbers with some toy monkeys and an elephant who had been > given as a gift for the baby we opened the space for our birth. We made An > invitation for this new life to come into the world. The principles were up > on our apartment walls and we posted sessions that could happen at any time. > They included “Music and dancing”, “Wise Teachers”, “Love and welcome”, > “Filling the pool” etc.. > > Now if you go through the principles and think about it you’ll realise how > pertinent they are for a genuine birth. Especially when you are hundred miles > from home and dealing with all the things that come with setting up for the > holding of space for the entry of a new life into this world. > > Whenever it starts is the right time. > Whoever comes are the right people. > When it's over it's over. (and when not over it's not over of course!) > Whatever happens is the only thing that could have. Wherever it happens is > the right place. > > Law of two feet/mobility. > > Be prepared to be surprised! > > Amazed at how marginalised the midwifing community is in the USA compared to > Europe we had watched the great film “The business of being born” and had > been given a recommendation by our UK midwife of a midwife in the States. We > discovered it was not only the midwife in this film but that she was living > two streets away from us in the East village opposite a restaurant called > “Matilda”! > > During our pre birth work we had been doing a lot of studying, finding out > about midwifery and had been amazed by Michel Odent's and also Ina May > Gaskin's work. Lots of the literature could easily be interchangeable with > work on creativity/opening space. For example: Odent's advice that he > usually turns up at a birth and says: “Do you mind if I go take a nap in the > room down the corridor.” Also “the best place for an obstetricians hands are > in his pockets” etc.. All this work is about space.. space.. opening space.. > Holding space. Its about trusting in emergence, whilst holding off on > intervention. > > Over the next four days with the help of our amazing Midwife Cara and our > Doula Angelique we went on an extraordinary roller coaster of physical and > emotional experience. They were both fantastic at holding and creating a safe > space for us both and they allowed me to support Matilda in following herself > mentally and physically. > > It was an incredibly challenging birth because of what turned out to be our > little son's position against Matilda's back, so it was very long and > although it looked like we may have to go to hospital at the later stages, > our wonderful Midwife and Doula and their team of helpers who appeared in > various guises throughout the three days pulled us through and our home birth > happened as we had hoped. Others who helped were Pat an astonishing > acupuncturist who turned up on the Thursday night who just happened to be > nearby and gave Matilda "liquid hips”! and Miriam a midwife colleague of > Cara's who appeared because she had texted Cara to meet for a coffee just > when we needed support because it looked like the baby’s heart was slowing. > She walked through the door to see the babies head crowning. Truly whoever > comes are the right people! She then helped getting the baby out fast with > Cara to speed things up as his heart was slowing. We stood Matilda up and the > baby was born not in the pool but in front of our sofa. (Wherever it happens > is the right place.) > > As well as them, Matilda was of course amazing and inspiring. Doing it all > without painkillers and using only myself, a birthing pool, the open space > principles and repeated playings of "The Bare Necessities" to get her through. > > At 8.47am on the 6th Jan 2012 the baby was born. Because of his difficult > route his head was squished into a rather dramatic lopsided horn, (“be > prepared to be surprised” and “whatever happens is the only thing that could > have”), which quickly disappeared. Riddley Wilbur McDermott (Whoever comes > are the right people.) is now doing very well. He is particularly beautiful. > > Here's a photo of him: > > http://clusterform.tumblr.com/post/16137649871/riddley-wilbur-mcdermott-libatique-73-lens-kodot > > Our birth has now happened. (when it's over it's over) But the space that has > opened where our baby boy now exists is astounding, scary, exhilarating and > profoundly humbling. We love him. > > For our new family it is of course just beginning... (When it's not over > it's not over.) > > > Lots of love > > Phelim X > > ________________________________ > > I generally pick up emails only at the beginning and end of the working day. > I am currently aiming to respond the following day. 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