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Your Self Occupy 100% A world that works for ALL is a world of love made visible Phone: 206-459-0227 Skype: anne.m.stadler www.InClaritas.com www.CharterforCompassion.org www.ProtecttheSacred.org > On Mar 31, 2015, at 1:04 PM, via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > wrote: > > Send OSList mailing list submissions to > oslist@lists.openspacetech.org > > To subscribe or unsubscribe via the World Wide Web, visit > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > or, via email, send a message with subject or body 'help' to > oslist-requ...@lists.openspacetech.org > > You can reach the person managing the list at > oslist-ow...@lists.openspacetech.org > > When replying, please edit your Subject line so it is more specific > than "Re: Contents of OSList digest..." > > > Today's Topics: > > 1. Re: Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race Together > Campaign (Harrison via OSList) > 2. Re: Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race Together > Campaign (Carmela Ariza via OSList) > 3. Re: Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race Together > Campaign (Carmela Ariza via OSList) > 4. OS Hotline - Today! Tuesday, March 31 @ 12PM EDT > (Tricia Chirumbole via OSList) > 5. Hotline is today - March 31st :) (Tricia Chirumbole via OSList) > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > > Message: 1 > Date: Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:49:10 -0400 > From: Harrison via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > To: "'Lisa Heft -'" <lisah...@openingspace.net>, "'World wide Open > Space Technology email list'" <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > Subject: Re: [OSList] Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race > Together Campaign > Message-ID: <004401d06b2a$f98ed3f0$ecac7bd0$@net> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" > > Lisa - I do love it when you go on! J And, as you might suspect, I think you > are working a tad too hard. Not in doing what you love... but in talking > about it. A Short Take might be something like - "Make a small circle of > chairs (with a few left over, piled on the side), sit down, and BE (in your > case) LISA (and if you are somebody else, fill in the BLANK). Nothing to > tell, nothing to do. Just BE there. Amazing who drops by. Just be prepared > to be surprised. > > > > And if it helps, remember... Whoever comes is/are the right people. Whatever > happens is the only thing that could have. Whenever it starts is the right > time. When it's over it's over. You could also say, Wherever it happens is > the right place. But no need. You are already IN the RIGHT Place. > > > > ho > > > > Winter Address > > 7808 River Falls Drive > > Potomac, MD 20854 > > 301-365-2093 > > > > Summer Address > > 189 Beaucaire Ave. > > Camden, ME 04843 > > 207-763-3261 > > > > Websites > > www.openspaceworld.com > > www.ho-image.com > > OSLIST To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of > OSLIST Go > to:http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > > > From: OSList [mailto:oslist-boun...@lists.openspacetech.org] On Behalf Of > Lisa Heft - via OSList > Sent: Monday, March 30, 2015 12:28 PM > To: OSLIST > Subject: Re: [OSList] Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race Together > Campaign > > > > [I'll cross-post with you Lucas, because the two places I saw you post this > have such different-from-each-other communities of practice. And this is a > long response so I know that whoever does not feel inclined to read this has > the freedom to use the Law of De-Leet...] > > > > Lucas - you are such an inspiration. > > Instead of saying 'why doesn't someone...' / 'why is the world.' / 'why > isn't anybody.' / 'why don't people.' > > . you just step out into it. > > And in doing so, you change the world, person by person. > > > > Not 'how can we make impact in the highest numbers' but true, real, > immediate, zero-resources (except your time, heart and passion)... impact. > > > > I want to be focus on the fact that you asked us for something, and I want > to make sure I am hearing you. > > You ask for thoughts and suggestions for improvement. You ask about creating > "a simple, repeatable process for opening 'pop-up civic space' so others > might do the same." > > > > My first answer is to do what my colleague Ellen shared with me. Those of > you who know me know that this is what I myself am like, as well. > > While taking her commute to work on public transportation, she one day > decided to put down her book, take off her earphones. And she turned to the > stranger - a man - next to her and started talking. "How about this weather > we are having?"... at first. And during this ride they found themselves > talking about power dynamics at work, gender dynamics, race dynamics, > cultural differences-assumptions-projections, interpersonal communication. > all in one ride. And it was so moving to both of them as they shared towards > the end of their conversation how this level of real listening to another > person is rare and special. > > > > So that is what you can do. Simple, repeatable, zero resources, change the > world. > > It does not work every time. That is what 'let go attachment to outcome' is > about. You do it because it is the right thing to do. Because it changes > you, too. Because with practice, it feels ore natural. Because it is the way > you want the world to be. > > > > Ellen mentions that skills are also needed for this sort of interchange. > Experience, understanding and respect enough to not say "how about that race > stuff everyone's talking about?" or asking someone to speak for an entire > tribe (youth, women, elder, whatever) instead of speaking just for > themselves. Or steering a conversation to topics *you* want to talk about > (race, voting, whatever). Which is not listening, at all. Is not about the > other person at all. Is not being fully present. I would hope instead you > practice active listening skills and curiosity but not "let's pull this all > out into the open" curiosity because *you* are ready to do so. Again - that > would be all about you. > > > > Meet each individual exactly where they are. And be amazed. And learn. And > wonder. > > > > My other answer is as I reflect upon something I have done which is similar > in nature to your putting chairs out to see who comes to join the > conversation. > > > > One of my favorite places to facilitate is in prisons. In some settings the > process you select is affected by the physical setting you are in - just > like for any facilitation job. So I have done various kinds of facilitative > work in prisons but for this example I am thinking about a day-long event > such as a health fair - which is often held on the prison yard. Various > non-profits / NGOs have tables, pamphlets, volunteers to tell you about > services. And in the interest of health and wellness, my offering is a > hosted conversation space. > > > > In a maximum security prison, you cannot do anything that - when seen from a > guard tower - looks like chaos. Chaos may mean lack of safety. Assault. So > things like 'everyone freely moves about in little self-organizing groups' > does not look structured. And I also have to select a process where people > can come in or out at any time - no beginning, no explaining, no set-up. > Therefore I set up a circle of about 20 chairs in some highly visible > location in the middle of the prison yard - like right in the center of the > yard. I put a sign on the back of one out of every 5 chairs (facing out - so > staff / guards / inmates see a sign if they look at the circle of chairs). > It says "Ask Lisa". That makes prison staff feel that I am some sort of > expert person 'in charge' of what looks like a very specific circle. So that > takes care of opening the space to let whatever happens happens, in a > setting that has more rules and needs for 'control.' > > > > And I sit there for eight hours, welcoming whoever wishes to join as the > conversation flows. People come in and out and sit for awhile in the circle > to listen or to talk, for as long as they want, or as long as their free > time is scheduled. The conversation shifts and turns and goes where it needs > to go. People usually start by asking me something / looking to me for > something, but all I do is to reflect back to them. How does that make you > feel. What does that mean to you. That must really be big for you. What do > others think. > > > > When some people first arrive they test me, saying things they think will > offend me. Turns out that the others are there so say 'we're talking here - > if you want to stay, respect it'. And actually you can say anything to me in > that setting and I will not be offended. So that first testing tactic does > not work and they get to move on to sharing and hearing thoughts about > things. > > > > It can start as being about health (let's say it's a health fair). However > specifically when doing this in prison, in my experience, it always turns to > experiences and feelings of grief and loss. Missing a loved one's funeral, > missing being a father to their child, knowing what they could contribute, > wishing they could vote for someone they feel would help the country, > mourning the loss or discovery of the man or woman they once were, could > have been, realizing now the potential they have, developing themselves, > reflecting on things. > > > > My tips and tools for that? Same as any facilitation. Rest well, eat first. > Hydrate. Set up a space. Pre-think what materials you may need and bring > them along. Then for this kind of facilitation it is very similar to > peer-to-peer listening in any setting. Just breathe. Receive. Witness. > Appreciate. Don't try to do therapy, don't try to bring someone to a way of > thinking, don't try to delve into something that interests me or that I wish > they would talk or think about. Because what? Same as above. it's not about > me. It's about them. That's the point. > > > > These are the reflections that to me I would bring into a setting such as > yours - chairs on the plaza. Holding space. Being responsible for what you > are inviting. Not trying to drive a conversation to fill a need or yearning > that I myself may have. Breathing. > > > > ___ > > > > To me, this is radical listening. Radical peacemaking. True dialogue. Which > is as much about listening as it is speaking. Which is not about changing > someone at all, but instead, about honoring each person's truth as true for > them. Staying curious. Being amazed. > > > > My observation is that with all this social media and online tools stuff, > people more and more are able to find, learn about and stay in what is > already of interest to them. Issues and people they are already comfortable > with. The known. Rather than being exposed to surprises. To other ways of > being. Other ways of seeing. Of making a living. Of navigating. Of > expressing. Of being complex and full humans. > > > > So how do you make a replicable, repeatable process? You take off your ear > plugs, put down your book, and turn to the other person to talk about the > weather. You listen, without attachment to outcome. You hold space. You be > responsible for your own internal *stuff* and you own it, you don't project > it onto someone else. You don't be "helpy". You just . be. And if you are > comfortable doing so, you walk out into the world and be more of that. In > everything you do, everywhere you go. And the world changes. Not in big > how-many-people-what-do-we-measure ways. But in meaningful, memorable ways, > person by person. > > > > If you've read this far, thanks for listening to my going on a bit about > something I am really passionate about: being peace. > > > > Lisa > > > > Lisa Heft > > Consultant, Facilitator, Educator > > Opening Space > > > > > > > > On Mar 26, 2015, at 7:29 AM, Lucas Cioffi via OSList > <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> wrote: > > > > > > > > I happen to live in Charlottesville, Virginia where a recent violent arrest > of a student and race-related protests have gotten some national media > attention. Over the past two days I tried an experiment in creating pop-up > civic space for dialogue. > > > > This is designed as an alternative to how Starbucks conducted its Race > Together initiative last week which has had mixed reviews. I wrote up my > thoughts below and attached some photos so you can get a feel for the > experience. > > > > My goals were to "bring dialogue to people" and to create a simple, > repeatable process that others might improve or replicate, even without > resources. > > > > This is not to detract from formal and well-resourced dialogue programs. I > believe there is also a vital need for public dialogue in the margins like > this when no resources are available. > > > > I'm wondering what your thoughts and suggestions are for improvement. > -- > > If I try something in a Starbucks over the next few days, it will be very > different-- it would be just a sign-- a silent invitation-- and people can > choose to sit down and join the conversation if they'd like. > > What do you think? > > Where do we go from here? Well, if I/you/we can create a simple, repeatable > process for opening "pop-up civic space" like this, then others might do the > same, and we might all surprise ourselves with what is possible. There is > certainly a need for more productive dialogue in our country. > > > > -------------- next part -------------- > An HTML attachment was scrubbed... > URL: > <http://lists.openspacetech.org/pipermail/oslist-openspacetech.org/attachments/20150330/afdedbbd/attachment.html> > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 2 > Date: Tue, 31 Mar 2015 02:15:08 -0700 > From: Carmela Ariza via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > To: "lisah...@openingspace.net" <lisah...@openingspace.net>, > "oslist@lists.openspacetech.org" <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org>, > "oslist@lists.openspacetech.org" <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > Subject: Re: [OSList] Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race > Together Campaign > Message-ID: > <1427793308.57418.yahoomailiosmob...@web161002.mail.bf1.yahoo.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" > > An HTML attachment was scrubbed... > URL: > <http://lists.openspacetech.org/pipermail/oslist-openspacetech.org/attachments/20150331/2d4b603a/attachment.htm> > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 3 > Date: Tue, 31 Mar 2015 02:15:08 -0700 > From: Carmela Ariza via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > To: "lisah...@openingspace.net" <lisah...@openingspace.net>, > "oslist@lists.openspacetech.org" <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org>, > "oslist@lists.openspacetech.org" <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > Subject: Re: [OSList] Opening Space on the Heels of Starbucks' Race > Together Campaign > Message-ID: > <1427793308.57418.yahoomailiosmob...@web161002.mail.bf1.yahoo.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" > > An HTML attachment was scrubbed... > URL: > <http://lists.openspacetech.org/pipermail/oslist-openspacetech.org/attachments/20150331/2d4b603a/attachment-0001.htm> > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 4 > Date: Tue, 31 Mar 2015 10:27:06 -0400 > From: Tricia Chirumbole via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > To: World wide Open Space Technology email list > <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > Subject: [OSList] OS Hotline - Today! Tuesday, March 31 @ 12PM EDT > Message-ID: > <CAGT+W5PtZzGaGbaqxER9EqiYAk-VPaep=xheg3vh2go2gea...@mail.gmail.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="utf-8" > > Good day all! > > > > The hotline is coming to a device near you soon! Join us *today* - *Tuesday > March 30th at 12PM EDT (*Note daylight savings time has occurred in the US, > so please check your time zone!) > > > > We will be using the *video platform Zoom...*If you have not used > *Zoom* before, > we highly recommend that you download, install, and test it well before the > call: https://www.zoom.us/. > > > > *To participate:* > > 1. *Sign-up *and post topics: http://bit.ly/OShotline > > 2. *Join the call* from PC, Mac, iOS or Android: > https://zoom.us/j/751609912 > > a. Join by phone: +1 (415) 762-9988 or +1 (646) 568-7788 (US Toll) > > b. International numbers available: https://zoom.us/zoomconference > > c. Meeting ID: 751 609 912 > > > > In gratitude, > > > Tricia Chirumbole > > Facilitator. Consultant. Champion. > > Participant-Driven Engagements/Co-Creative Cultures > Mojo Collaborative > www.mojocollaborative.com > > 571-232-0942 > skype: tricia.chirumbole > twitter: @themojozone > -------------- next part -------------- > An HTML attachment was scrubbed... > URL: > <http://lists.openspacetech.org/pipermail/oslist-openspacetech.org/attachments/20150331/54d95e6e/attachment.htm> > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 5 > Date: Tue, 31 Mar 2015 10:27:59 -0400 > From: Tricia Chirumbole via OSList <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > To: World wide Open Space Technology email list > <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > Subject: [OSList] Hotline is today - March 31st :) > Message-ID: > <CAGT+W5P4cUwNr-8X9E4iz5z9NiEt9Pe7pis=_7n7ed1t-hz...@mail.gmail.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="utf-8" > > Date correction! The OS hotline is today, Tuesday March 31st :) > > Tricia Chirumbole > > Facilitator. Consultant. Champion. > > Participant-Driven Engagements/Co-Creative Cultures > Mojo Collaborative > www.mojocollaborative.com > > 571-232-0942 > skype: tricia.chirumbole > twitter: @themojozone > > On Tue, Mar 31, 2015 at 10:27 AM, Tricia Chirumbole < > tri...@mojocollaborative.com> wrote: > >> Good day all! >> >> >> >> The hotline is coming to a device near you soon! Join us *today* - *Tuesday >> March 30th at 12PM EDT (*Note daylight savings time has occurred in the >> US, so please check your time zone!) >> >> >> >> We will be using the *video platform Zoom...*If you have not used *Zoom* >> before, >> we highly recommend that you download, install, and test it well before the >> call: https://www.zoom.us/. >> >> >> >> *To participate:* >> >> 1. *Sign-up *and post topics: http://bit.ly/OShotline >> >> 2. *Join the call* from PC, Mac, iOS or Android: >> https://zoom.us/j/751609912 >> >> a. Join by phone: +1 (415) 762-9988 or +1 (646) 568-7788 (US Toll) >> >> b. 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