Can I burrow some wisdom from the list? I have just visited my friend and her new baby in hospital. Her doctor suggested she be induced a week early because her baby was looking like being a good 9lb plus?(her first was 9lb). She trusted his wisdom and went ahead, having gels late evening and the following morning, nothing happening. At 1pm he broke her waters. This bit I am appaled at. He has very large hands, and the agony it caused her was awful, even to the point of screaming at him to stop. He didn't. Eventually labour started and late that evening with the aid of an epidural she birthed a lovely little boy, weighing only 8lb5oz. Mum and baby doing well. I asked her if he commented on the weight , of course he hasn't and they don't want to say anything. She was induced for no good reason. She described the ARM as what she imagines being raped would feel like, (I guess physically and emotionally) this will also not be passed on to him. I feel that she was raped and there is nothing I can do about it. I can't force her to acknowledge what happened, her and hubby are relatively happy and she has a beautiful baby that neeeds her. It is safer for them to think of it as a medical procedure because if you acknowledge it as rape, who is going to help them deal with it all. How many women and men experience this? This doctor will never know how he made her feel and can continue to practice like this because the silence says it is OK. I am so frustrated and sad that she had to experience it at all.
It reinforces my belief in NMAP and the need for women to have the very best of care. thanks, I just needed to vent off, my husbands ears are tired, Megan. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
