can ABSOLUTELY relate to your e-mail Jo.
My first two babies were born naturally (drug and
intervention free) in our local small hospital. The second was particularly
wonderful for a hospital birth - we were SO lucky to have a fantastic
midwife with our same birth philosophy... and who even defied the
obstetrician, and let me birth on the floor, where I wanted to be (she was
supposed to get me onto the hospital bed). I was later told that she was 'told
off' by the obs.
BUT there is NO comparison to our third baby's
birth - AT HOME!!! Birthing in the comfort and security of your own home -
surrounded by your loved ones and your own trusted midwives ... your young
children gathered around excitedly awaiting their new baby....is empowering,
exhilerating, liberating, and more blissful than anything I have ever
experienced. To all gather in the loungeroom afterwards, singing happy birthday
to our baby, sharing cups of tea, cake etc and bathing in this new darling being
- was beautiful.
re. playgroups etc. i feel like a huge fish
out of water - regarding the two things I am SO passionate about - birthing and
breastfeeding!
I left my mothers group as I was only 1 of 2
women who had given birth naturally (there were approx. 15 women in total!!)
and enjoyed the experience of giving birth. I was also the only
one who continued breastfeeding beyond 6 months (still am feeding that 'baby'
who is now 2.4 yrs old - along with his baby brother 4 mths).... The straw
that broke the camels back for me, was one particular mother who decided she
wanted to wean her baby of her breast - and decided to do it abruptly - and
cruelly - her baby was VERY distressed and lost weight - because he refused the
bottle - as he so missed the breast. The mother's logic was - that he would
eventually take the bottle as he would be so starving.... I would go home in
tears....
at playgroup now... well, it's not as bad as
mother's group was... but I still feel very different. They give me looks when I
pounce on the communal plate of food (for the children's morning tea) before it
gets to my toddler - as it contains junk like cheesels and fruit loops ...
so, therefore usually bring my own for him.I usually keep to myself - and wander
around with my toddler (as I'm there for him). They haven't seen me breastfeed
my toddler yet and don't know I had a homebirth - (I don't go that often) so I
haven't had any comments about that yet.
I so wish there was a kind of attachment
parenting playgroup where I live - it would be SO wonderful to be with other
women who share the same parenting philosophies... natural birth/home birth;
co-sleeping; baby wearing etc.... we could all be fish swimming in the same
water!!
cheers,
Nicole
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