Good for you Marilyn I feel exactly the same!! hence why I have 4 under 4.5.(the breastfeeding DID NOT prevent ovulation in my case)!!!!
I think this sort of measured approach has enabled me to provide comfort and reassurance, not be sleep deprived, have a bit of relationship time and do 30 hrs a week work for Maternity Coalition!! Justine Mum to Ruby 4.5, Clancy 3, William 20 months and Tobias 23 days ----- Original Message ----- From: "Marilyn Kleidon" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Tuesday, March 23, 2004 7:00 AM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] co-sleeping > You know Belinda, I think that was my parents' approach to me sleeping with > them. I have a fond memory of their bed being a welcoming place up until I > was about 2 or 3 yrs then I have a memory of being cramped, hot, and itchy > when in there...I soon preferred my own bed though would go in for > reassurance. My dad had a similar ploy for avoiding housework: he would do > it but happily get fired by my mum for not doing it to her expectations. > Umm! > > Re sex: I never felt it was a chore always something I really wanted too. > Any time it was "expected" it was a definite turn off and a turn down. I > always found an active sex life to actually be an energizer for me and was > definetly prepared to sacrifice the housewifely jobs(but not the mothering > joys) to play matahari. Granted this can be a bone of contention so to > speak. I can accept being the odd woman out here: I am not overly fond of > chocolate and never, never suffer from being too cold in air conditioning or > any situations that don't involve a windchill factor. I know lactation is > theoretically supposed to decrease sex drive and lubrication not so for me > though it did inhibit ovulation until the absolute last breastfeed for all 3 > girls. Even one feed a day kept fertility away. But not the sex drive. Oh > well! > > marilyn > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Belinda Maier" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Sunday, March 21, 2004 6:13 PM > Subject: [ozmidwifery] co-sleeping > > > > When i got desperate with my second child who as about five and always in > > our small bed as well as his new brother I tried many things. What worked > > best was always welcoming him into our bed yet making him very > uncomfortable > > so his own bed was more attractive ie squishing him towards the edge of > the > > bed, being restless, dragging the pillow or blankets slightly off him etc. > > He soon chose to have a cuddle then get back into his own comfy bed. > > The partner and sex thing, I think parenting does sap a lot of energy for > > sex but it doesnt have to be a bad thing it is just a stage of your life. > > Most epople I know say when the kids get older you start to regain energy > > for you sex life. It seems women are expected to be too much; mothers, > > drivers, cleaners, workers and also lovers! Partners/men should be > > apprecieated but it is like my kids, they dont just get rewarded for being > > reasonable good poeple, that is an everyday expectation neither do we > focus > > on 'bad' behaviour, they are appreciated and loved and reminded tof the > > qualities in them that we love. I get a bit frustrated when men are > revered > > for being so great when they are really doing no more than the average > woman > > is doing. > > Belinda > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
