Made YOU cry Brenda! I was her doula who was so rudely interstate at the time !!! Amanda's story made me cry that I wasn’t able to be with her!!!!
Amanda is right though, she did birth AMAZINGLY!!!!! Go Girl! Love Jo -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of brendamanning Sent: Wednesday, November 23, 2005 8:53 PM To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified! Amanda wrote: "Perhaps it might be suggested that women should have an advocate in with them whenever the have to speak to these OBs either a midwife or someone like that, then maybe those OB's might choose their words a little more carefully" !!!!!! FANTASTIC IDEA !! Take a doula / witness / advocate/ anyone who will support you. Your story made me cry Amanda !! To be treated so badly & have no one to share it with, but still go on to triumph! You deserve a medal to have managed to birth at all ! With kind regards Brenda Manning www.themidwife.com.au ----- Original Message ----- From: "Synnes" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au> Sent: Wednesday, November 23, 2005 4:59 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified! >I cried when I read what your lady from Melbourne wrote. Just >remembering >the way a horrible doctor spoke to me when I was very pregnant with my >third who also happened to be a VBAC. Had to see a doctor because it was >hospital policy, they had to "okay" my natural birth decision before I >could go ahead with it. My Doula was away and couldn't come to the >appointment. His total negative attitude and the fact that he spoke to the >inturn rather than to me as if I wasn't even in the room, made my blood >boil. Then he decided he guessed they could "let" me "trial labour". God >did I wanted to slap him and slap him hard!!! But instead I said thankyou >like a good little girl and drove myself home crying uncontrollably all the >way (had to go to the hair dressers for app. right away). Composed myself >and walked in, made excuses for my puffy eyes (hayfever), when all I wanted >to do was scream my head off and rant about this bloody doctor but >couldn't. I was so humiliated, felt like such an idiot and thought of all >the great stuff I should have said to the doctors face, but because it was >standing up for my own rights didn't say a word. > > Anyway my "trial labour" turned into a beautiful natural birth, no > drugs, > no cut, no interference by doctors ( I allowed one to stick a needle in my > arm and that was it) birthed with a midwife, student midwife, my husband > and my wonderful Doula. On my knees gripping onto my husbands shoulders, > with a beautiful baby boy weighing 4540g (yes I have big babies and it can > be done!!!!!). I hope as a midwife to give every birthing mother that > kind of powerful birth (no matter what way the birth ends up), I felt so > loved, so cared for, so safe and so empowered there was no question I > wanted to do it again. Which by the way I am for the 4th time in May next > year. > > I get so sick of hearing how women are treated by OB's when during > pregnancy alot of them are very vulnerable and open to suggestion > especially when it come to the OB giving them half truths in regards to > what is best for them and their baby. Perhaps it might be suggested that > women should have an advocate in with them whenever the have to speak to > these OBs either a midwife or someone like that, then maybe those OB's > might choose their words a little more carefully!!!!!! > > Sorry! Wow a bit of a rant there! > > Amanda > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Kelly @ BellyBelly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au> > Sent: Monday, November 21, 2005 11:54 AM > Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified! > > >> Thanks everyone for your thoughts and replies, it was a huge shock to >> me >> but >> I guess, sadly, that many of you are well used to this. I haven't heard >> from >> the woman since Saturday so chances are she's gone into labour. I pray it >> all went as well as she hoped. >> >> Best Regards, >> >> Kelly Zantey >> Director, www.bellybelly.com.au & www.toys4tikes.com.au Gentle >> Solutions For Conception, Pregnancy, Birth & Baby Australian Little >> Tikes Specialists >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] >> [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Cheryl LHK >> Sent: Monday, 21 November 2005 1:25 AM >> To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au >> Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified! >> >> Yes, she can turn up to any public hospital with midwifery services >> and >> not >> be turned away. Tell her to have a copy of antenatal paperwork she has >> (if >> she has it!!) and the midwives at the hospital can ring her orginal >> booking >> hospital and get any records/pathology faxed over - or at least that has >> happened to us in the past. >> >> This is the sort of obs who needs a complaint written about him!! >> But it will turn into a "he said, she said" situation. If she goes >> back to him, take another person with her!! >> >> Cheryl >> >> >>>From: "Kelly @ BellyBelly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >>>Reply-To: ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au >>>To: <ozmidwifery@acegraphics.com.au> >>>Subject: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified! >>>Date: Sun, 20 Nov 2005 15:44:48 +1100 >>> >>>One of the girls in my forums here in Melbourne just posted this - no >>>wonder she seemed upset when I saw her yesterday - I had no idea at >>>the time: >>> >>> >>> >>>"I have just had the worst night of my life, and its taken me 3 hours >>>to stop crying uncontrollably. >>> >>>My Dr, who I've been seeing throughout my pg is on leave >>>(bereavement), >>>and >>>since I'm at 41 weeks, the midwives I'm seeing sent me to see the OB >>>who's >>>filling in for him. >>> >>>So I go for my appt. >>> >>>First, he does a stretch & sweep without asking me or any prior >>>warning. >>> >>>Then he says he's booking me in to be induced tomorrow, which when I >>>questioned it he tells me I'm going to kill my baby cos I'm past 41 >>>weeks. >>> >>>The he goes on to say 'I'm not into any of that airy fairy [EMAIL PROTECTED] >>>You'll >>>deliver on the bed, on your back. I'm not a vet.' >>> >>>So I said I was planning an active birth, (which is what my Dr >>>prefers) and he says I'll have to see someone else and good luck >>>getting in to see anyone else at this stage of the game. >>> >>>So now I have no obstetrician, no doctor and I don't know what I'm >>>going >>>to >>>do. I'm seriously thinkg about fronting up tomorrow at the Royal Womens >>>to >>>see if I can have my baby there instead of the hospital I'm booked in >>>at - >>>can they turn you away if its a public hospital?" >>> >>> >>> >>>This is appalling - beyond belief. my blood is boiling it really is.. >>> >>> >>> >>>Best Regards, >>> >>>Kelly Zantey >>>Director, <http://www.bellybelly.com.au/> www.bellybelly.com.au & >>><http://www.toys4tikes.com.au/> www.toys4tikes.com.au Gentle >>>Solutions For Conception, Pregnancy, Birth & Baby Australian Little >>>Tikes Specialists >>> >>> >>> >> >> >> -- >> This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. >> Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. >> >> -- >> This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. >> Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. >> >> >> -- >> No virus found in this incoming message. >> Checked by AVG Free Edition. >> Version: 7.1.362 / Virus Database: 267.13.5/177 - Release Date: >> 11/21/2005 >> >> > > > > -- > No virus found in this outgoing message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.362 / Virus Database: 267.13.5/178 - Release Date: 11/22/2005 > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. 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