Were you referring 2 any quad men that I know? :) Some of us quad men don’t know how 2 read signs anymore & since we have the reverse situations with women we are a little hesitant of our advances. Rejection hurts a lot more now than it did prior 2 SCI ... I used 2 be hard as they came now I’m really sensitive but try 2 portray a hard shell on the outside, when people are around. Than find myself hurting and depressed when alone. So don’t mis-understand the actions of men with SCI’s because they may be feeling exactly the same way as I. We’d rather be safe than 2 be hurt :) :) :)
On 1/3/05 9:35 PM, "andrea murray" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Stacy,
I'm a par and I also can't feel my leg. But I had sexual feelings. Exp rely if I'm with someone I really want to be with. My trouble is that men treat me and see me as there friend or sister. In fact quad men are the same way. It really bothers me I'm hot and their not. Now that is frustration!
Wheelchair Warrior
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Thanks Stacy,
I appreciate your honesty, thanks Stacy
Love Smurf xxx
In a message dated 01/01/2005 04:07:42 GMT Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
I do have those feelings yes. I don't understand it though because I don't have feeling in my legs, but I do in those areas. I'm not sure to what extent because I haven't 'been' with anyone since I got sick. Of course I have experimented, but don't really have any desire to and I think when or at this rate if I am with anyone, that is when I will know. I do have a sore on the bottom of my foot and that hurts me as well. I don't get it. My doctor said that the nerves to your pelvic area are the most protected on the spine so if I were to feel anywhere, it would be there. I do get sporadic sensations on my legs but never in the same places all the time. My doctor also told me that with my disease, it makes things very strange. No SCI is the same, but I am very much different because of the way it happened. I don't know if I ever explained it but my spine is very atrophied because of the disease and the damage! left over from the inflammation the spine is still very much intact. I still sweat below my injury level, but the swelling is quite bad and I have more spasticity than most spinal cord patients.
I'm having a hard time going through the holidays single. Most of my friends are married and/or have children. I don't have hardly any family and didn't have them here for Christmas and now alone for New Years. I find myself very left out because I don’t have anyone. One of my best friends pretty much only does things with other couples. Like going out to dinner, playing cards, etc. She helps me through the waiver program, so the time we spend together is when she is here helping me out with something. She just got in an accident and her car got totaled plus she got a broken arm. I can't get into her new car because it's too low and awkward to transfer out of, so we don't really do anything together anymore. It's been difficult getting through the holidays and will be glad when they are over. I'm just not looking forward to the next 6 weeks while everyone is making their valentines day arrangements.
I am happy that everything is going well for you and Steve. When the time is right, everything will happen naturally. It's wonderful that he isn't pushing you into anything you are not ready to do. Keep taking it slow.
Sorry for the book,
Stacy
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