I have to agree with Dave here. There is probably some underlining issues which he has not yet resolved. I haven't traveled since 1998 and I know the last time I did it was really stressful on both of my caregivers.
I wish you luck. I am thinking about taking a trip in the future, but I really dread all the preparation. For me it's difficult because I have to have a bed which afforded some room underneath so my Hoyer can adequately transfer me to the bed. Then again, the room has to be large enough so we can transfer me from my chair to the bed using the lift. I'm thinking about going up to Iowa. That's a heck of a drive from the Tampa area of Florida. We'll see. If I don't go to this year I'll think about next year. The gas prices are pretty appealing this year, who knows what next year will bring. Quadius On Fri, May 8, 2009 at 3:23 PM, David K. Kelmer < ctrlaltdelakad...@sbcglobal.net> wrote: > Hi Bobbie, > > You are right, those of us on the Q-List are the ONLY ones that can > understand why you are upset. There are more layers to Pete's feelings, > than there is in an onion. Pete probably doesn't understand them all, but > it's not just 200 miles, the care-giving, or the money. It has to be worked > out by Pete until he sees that the fear he feels now, can be put behind him, > and the two of you can have a wonderful weekend together. Give him the > time, and your sweet Pete will make the right choice...for both of you. > Stay strong. > > > C-4/5 Complete > 04/25/1976 - At the Age of 22 > Wichita Falls , TX > > > --- On *Thu, 5/7/09, bobbie...@aol.com <bobbie...@aol.com>* wrote: > > From: bobbie...@aol.com <bobbie...@aol.com> > Subject: [QUAD-L] I'm upset and need to vent > To: quad-list@eskimo.com > Date: Thursday, May 7, 2009, 5:08 PM > > *Hello my friends,* > * You are the ONLY ones who will understand why I am upset. I realize > how very lucky I am living in an apartment for the past 26 years and have a > van that I can drive since 1980 and most of all my sweet Pete who is not > only the love of my life, my best friend but also my full-time home health > aid. Which brings me to why I'm upset? * > * My youngest sister, DeeDee, lives in Saratoga, NY and she found a Bed & > Breakfast that is accessible and has a hospital bed in it and it's only 200 > miles away. But Pete thinks 200 miles is to far to drive plus he would have > to unload the van and then take care of me. I think 200 miles is not far at > all especially if we share the driving and he will need to take care of me > wherever we are. So, he has made up his mind, were not going. We have not > been on any vacation since 1995!* > * Pete is also concerned that he will not get reinstated as my full-time > HHA, 42 hrs a week. Although I can understand his concern me as the client > can request anybody and denie anybody. Bobbie* > > ------------------------------ > Remember Mom this Mother's Day! Find a florist near you > now<http://yellowpages.aol.com/search?query=florist&ncid=emlcntusyelp00000006> > . > > -- Quadius C2-3 incomplete 13 years post injury
