What you have to explain to her is her options. If she didnt have a caregiver what would her options be? Possibly a family member, nursing home or a short life due to no care. People need to understand that life comes to us in periods is the way I put it............your young 4 awhile, maybe raise kids, possibly married but we must learn to enjoy each period of life and not wish for the next one because it may be worse or we may not get a tomorrow at all. Living in the momment and finding something good in that momment is the only way to maintain happiness. A persons ability to be content regardless of circumstance is within themselves. If you compare yourself to others you will most likely be miserable most of the time. ron c7
________________________________ From: "wheelch...@aol.com" <wheelch...@aol.com> To: bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com; quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 8:32 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] How to advise a negative disabled neighbor? If the situation is that grave.... I would practice talking to a bare wall first. A baby chick must first crack the shell of the egg before they can breakout and see the world. Some people just feel comfortable within the shell of their own eggs. But then again, there are differences between neighbors and aids, in relation to taking care of someone's body vs someone's mind. Good Luck Best Wishes In a message dated 7/11/2013 8:23:05 P.M. Central Daylight Time, bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com writes: Hi All, > I have a neighbor, Jill, who lives across the hall and is 57. She has a debilitating progressive illness and is in quite a bit of pain. Yesterday I went to visit her and met and aid that she has now who is a bundle of sunshine and genuinely kind and considerate. Jill has complained about every single aid she has ever had and now she is complaining to me about the aid I just met. > I'm trying to tell her how to be positive to get the positive back to make a bad situation better, but she does not see this. Does anybody know of an example or a story I can tell her that will wake her up and see that what she has is great And not to take it for granted? Jill is constantly looking for the greener side of the grass and not seeing how greenIs right now. I tried to tell her that it could be so very much more worse. > Jill is so very very close to be entering a nursing home for the rest of her life. This afternoon she had a bad bowel accident in her bathroom and is just devastated and degradingly embarrassed as we all know. > I'm thinking that tomorrow would be a better time to talk to her. But I'm asking you all if you can tell me any kind of magic story for her? >Bobbie > > > >Sent from my iPad
